I wish my topics would actually get posts :(

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No matter what I post.. most of my topics get ignored. I feel like I'm not a part of the "cliques"/"groups" here, no matter what I say or do. Perhaps I'm not supposed to "fit in" because I'm too different. I'm not going to just post more often because thats not how I am. I post when I want- not just daily so I can be a part of a group that is posting every single day or whatever. Its unfortunate I had to make this topic but I'm simply fed up.


Also I want to point out- I know I can't force anyone to post in my topics.. its just I'm frustrated how people are! The regulars of the site don't give others a chance enough, in my view.

Recent example- I posted an issue I had with making friends, it got a few random replies but largely sat ignored until I posted in it again. I highly doubt this is a matter of "oh its not near the top of the page, so people probably didn't notice it". Call me overreacting or whatever, I don't care

It's frustrating and just horrible how I get treated here, when I havent done anything wrong! I stated my opinions on things and sometimes people misunderstand and then apparently I'm just evil to them or something. I don't get along with some folks, but I've learned to ignore their posts/topics. But somehow almost everyone else just ignores me. Is this how you treat non-regulars of the site? If yes, its probably a good thing I found out now.

The main reasons I would say I don't reply to certain posts are:
1. The topic doesn't relate to me or I have never had personal experience with it.
2. The post is really long and/or hard to understand.

I once posted something about Muhammad Ali's death. I'm supposed to be one of the "popular" members here. I have over 26,000 posts.

Four people responded to that post.

There have been MANY occurrences of me posting something, then not getting a response.

Hi Earthbound,

Here's how the thread you created in the Friendship section started:

"Alright so I'm a married man with very few friends. I literally have my wife and 2 real life friends (one I see maybe every few months, the other I rarely see)."

I'm a single woman whose best friend died several years ago. Therefore, how am I in any position to give you advice?

I did post earlier on a thread of yours where you had mentioned a health condition, because I'm in the habit of praying for people and I like to wish them well to let them know someone's thinking about them ... So when I see a post of yours that I can relate to, I'm happy to reply.

Hope this helps.

I apologize you feel this way. I know I generally respond to any posts like that I feel I can relate to, and based on the excerpt the woman above me posted, I can likely relate to things you are dealing with. Let me go back and see if I can find your post, and give you some feedback.

For the record, I've started many threads that got one or no responses. Especially when I started out (which is admittedly dumb, 1 post or 1000 should be the same). I typically respond with thoughtful things in other threads that are often ignored too. It is just how things go. Many of the members here only post in more frivolous topics, which is fine, but it seems there's a group of maybe 20 or so that really reach out and try to offer comfort to those going through things.

My point... dont take it personal and keep trying. Also, try offering a word or two to someone else and they will remember who you are. I know there are a few people on here that have helped me alot and I would immediately offer my words of encouragement to them about anything I knew how.

Just say you're the Wolfman (or Wolflady). You'll get responses.