My Family

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Why is it that your family think they know you so good? They don't realize that they could be wrong. How could they really know how you are feeling & what you are going through? Are they in your head? Sometimes I don't want to be part of my family. I wish they really listen to me. I was on the phone with my grandmother, I told her I'm not coming to the holiday parties this year, she just laugh at me, thinking she know why I'm not coming.

That's a tough one. I guess family think they know everything about you, because they've been around you a bit? I don't honestly know. My family is very judgemental and just plain rude.. so I really don't have a great answer for you.

My mother just thinks I'm lazy and stubborn.

Pre-diagnosis she always used to say she'd been too soft with me and should have pushed me harder to do well in school and to hold down a job. I don't think she has any real understanding of ASD, she made friends with somebody in recent times who has a son of a similar age to me who is autistic but he has more obvious difficulties (with language in particular) so I get the impression she still believes I could live a normal life if I tried, I have to some extent but not to a standard she could be proud or not embarrassed about.

I went years without having any contact at all with her. It's OK-ish now but still awkward. I miss my grandparents, they would never have even heard of the word autistic but they seemed to have a much better appreciation of my difficulties and accepted me for who I was. I could even go as far as to say they knew me better than I knew myself in that respect.