Got in a fight with an online friend

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We had been friends for three years and I got him upset because I am very emotional about a topic. I thought he was someone who was understanding and someone I could trust and I thought we were on the same page about it and in agreement so I talked about my true feelings to him and even had them in my own story I wrote and he seemed to take it all well. Especially when I put my own true feelings in my story and he didn't have a comment about how the character felt in my story so I assumed he had no problem with it and was understanding. I like to write so he has been a fan of my work and I share them with him and he finally got upset with me because I killed off another character in my story that was violent and he didn't like it.

Sometimes I wish I wasn't so emotional about certain things because then I get upset and get all worked up and cry about it and I hate being this way. Now I had to unfollow our conversation and I don't plan on going back because I am afraid of what he will say to me. I don't know if this is the end of our online friendship. I will just have to find another fan.

A three year friendship ending over one disagreement seems unusual to me. Is it a real friendship or one dependent on him being a fan? You wrote about how you feel, but what about his feelings?

In friendships disputes are commonplace. No other word for it.

Maybe say sorry, even if you are not wrong it is good way to say hey don't wish to fight you again.

Then after that maybe after that you could ask him how he felt and share your thoughts. It may be useful as it will help you two understand talk to understand one another which may help to avoid future fights. I know this from experience, always understanding how the other person feels is useful as it helps you put a lid on your behavior or his when it may be upsetting to others or you.

Life is easier when your a fan of yourself, friends are over rated and two types of pain comes from them. Rejection when they end up hating you and regret when you do something wrong in the relationship. Is that worth a conversation to you? Its not to me.

I don't see it as a real friendship. I didn't even know we were friends until he said we were. We were just chatting in PM and had been for months and then he said we became friends and no he isn't sorry.

I have no idea how he feels except he got mad at me so I got emotional about it. Maybe he thinks I'm crazy. I have been seen as crazy before by a couple others or told I have mental issues by a troll.

Writing is naturally an emotional process. A lot of feeling goes into it and that's what makes a good writer. You're probably very good and where there is good there is opposition. Not everyone will like everything. Maybe you two can work this out over time, but if this person wasn't understanding about something that means very much to you they really weren't worth worrying about. If they come around so be it, if not, remember there are countless wonderful writers who often make things difficult for their readers, but that is what makes the book worth reading. Would we have felt the story as deeply had their not been some dramatic experience? These are the difficulties of being a good writer. You can't please everyone. Keep writing!

Walt Disney got lot of flak when he killed off Bambi's mother so in Lady and The Tramp he amended Trusty's life because he didn't want to make the same mistake again so he added that he just had a broken leg and he was just knocked out by the wagon but originally in that scene he was dead. So that was why for a while the goodie characters didn't die for a while in Disney movies until The Lion King.

I once got a comment from someone on fanfiction for killing the puppies from 101 Dalmatians because I had Cruella De Vil win. But it turned out to be a misunderstanding because he thought I killed the 15 puppies Pongo and Perdy had than the other 15 puppies she had found elsewhere because Roger and Anita had taken different pathways due to not getting engaged right away and married because they decided to date instead. So the reader was relieved and the discussion ended. He only cared about those 15 puppies than the different litter she found.