Bothered about room-mate situation...

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I did post about this in another thread but just a brief version, so I will tell the whole story here.

To avoid confusion I will use letters J, H and D to refer to the room-mates I am discussing.

So basically J came home with his girlfriend and they were in an argument and went back to his room to continue arguing. H and D were sleeping in their room which is next to J's room and H banged on the wall to tell J and his gf to shut the f**k up. Well J was offended by this and then went on to rage at H for about 10 minutes in which he told her to move out and he'd pay her rent. After that things quieted down for the night...but in the morning was woken by J and H having a yelling match.

Well anyways H did leave and refuses to come back with J still here, and turns out J can't actually pay her share of the rent and none of the rest of us can, plus she's D's girlfriend so I imagine there'd be little bad blood between D and J if they're both here. So D and my boyfriend decided the best option was to kick J out and me and my brother did not oppose them on this so that is what we did.

If J doesn't move out than me and my boyfriend would have to, in which case we might have to go to his home-state missouri and stay with his parents for a while. My brother and D would both prefer me and my boyfriend staying over J staying. Plus H said she'd come back and stay for the rest of the lease(she was planning to maybe move out earlier than that but not for a couple months) with J gone so then we'd only have to find one person rather than trying to find two people to share a room.

That said I feel bad for J and wish he didn't have to get kicked out but I doubt he and H are going to be making up any time soon and he did sort of take it upon himself to tell her to move out...so I don't see another option but still can't help feeling dirty and mean about the way this had to go down.

Kind of reminds me of a part in some war novel I read about a platoon...basically you had some guys who had known each other and bonded but then you had a few new recruits. Well the new recruits were sent out first to scout or whatever because then if anything happened it would happen to them first, basically the new recruits were more expendable than those in the platoon that had known each other much longer. I can't help feeling if J was seen as more of a close friend more efforts may have been made to avoid resorting to kicking him out.

I think I am probably thinking about this way too much, but its the first time I've lived with room-mates so first time I've had to deal with room-mate conflict and having to kick someone out. I just wish H and J could have made up instead but what do you do. Also though J is still going to be here for a time as you can't just kick someone to the curb but have to give them some time to sort things out and prepare....but that also means we'll have a grumpy, sulky person around for another 30 days, which will certainly be a bit awkward.

well there, I feel a little bit better having expressed all that, anyone else have similar experiences or dealt with room-mate drama.