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12 May 2007, 12:16 pm

I'm curious to know who supports you when it comes to your AS or your emotional problems.

Basically, I've been reading different forums off and on and I'm seeing that some people are suicidal. Seriously, it's like listeining to myself at age 12, not to be rude. I admit that there are times where even I get desperate or I think down on myself.

However, the one thing that always helped me, was the never-ending support of my loving parents or mentors. Every once in a while, even some of my peers would support me with advice.

Anyway, I just want you to honestly discuss the support that you receive, if any, and how it helps you with your issues. You may also rant about the support that you wish you had, if you choose.

I don't know, but suicide really concerns me. I felt suicidal during middle school and early high school and it hurts reading some of your stories. I think Big T was right on the money when the person created the forum for positive thinking.

If you have any thoughts, please mention them. Do anything you can do get your monkey off your back.



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12 May 2007, 12:17 pm

I've never been suicidal...horribly lonely yes
and I didn't join forums until like last year and didn't find one that I liked until a few months ago...
my mom and brother try...my dad not at all :roll:



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12 May 2007, 12:22 pm

My family I guess. Although I'm not good at talking about how I feel so usually I just keep it all to myself. I like talking on here though.



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12 May 2007, 12:27 pm

I'm sorry if I seemed negative or offensive in anyway. It's just that in the beginning, AS was extremely harmful for me, but when my parents supported me in music and academics, along with support groups for AS, I began to feel better about myself. Plus, my frequent depressions dropped. I know that a good number of you are venting, but I am just so tired of reading some of these suicidal rants. But hey, at least it is better than venting in the real world. Trust me on that!



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12 May 2007, 12:31 pm

No one beyond this forum as I am awaiting diagnosis. My parents do not believe in it and do not discuss it with me, and I do not have people I talk to in my real life apart from a checkout worker in a shop, so here is my only support literally. If I had people in life to turn to, it would be likely there would be less posts in this forum section from me.



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12 May 2007, 12:34 pm

My children try but just think I`m "silly" most of the time.
The rest of my family not at all.
My boss is being great at the moment and taking it seriously.
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If people are ranting on here about being suicidal then they are not actually busy committing suicide - let them vent. Taking this outlet away may be the final push for someone.


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12 May 2007, 3:35 pm

Yoshie777 wrote:
I'm curious to know who supports you when it comes to your AS or your emotional problems.
Basically, I've been reading different forums off and on and I'm seeing that some people are suicidal. Seriously, it's like listeining to myself at age 12, not to be rude. I admit that there are times where even I get desperate or I think down on myself.
However, the one thing that always helped me, was the never-ending support of my loving parents or mentors. Every once in a while, even some of my peers would support me with advice.

Yoshie777 wrote:
Anyway, I just want you to honestly discuss the support that you receive, if any, and how it helps you with your issues. You may also rant about the support that you wish you had, if you choose.

Didn't have dx growing up-can't know what might've been different/better or worse if I'd gotten dx'd early on. Had encouragement in some areas (as child in my family) but I continued to disappoint expectations as time went on. Being an adult is harder (higher standardss, lack of praise for doing what comes easy)-but it's only as an adult that I've had ASD dx. Have gotten much more support because of the dx-from a few friends & counselors that are affirming of me (my "family" doesn't count anymore, have made my own).
Was really in a bad way during my teens & even in my 20's: desperation, frustration, confusion, and self-loathing. Don't know if dx would've helped me then-can't imagine things as other than how they happened/turned out. Know I was searching for "why ? what is it ? how ? help !" about my life "in the world". Coped by writing vast amounts of my pain into (offline) journals/notebooks.
Still get overwhelmed by bad moods & cannot see beyond/around them. The difference now is that I have people to vent my output upon & from whom I can stand to receive input. They're a buffer to minimize the damage to myself (mentally or physically). Appreciate the kind individuals in my life, they're not condescending towards me-they don't offer help if I don't want or need it.


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15 May 2007, 5:52 am

My family helps to some extent and the friends (mostly from church) that I have are cool with it. When I first told some of them that I had a diasbility, I thought I was going to be kicked out of the house we were all at that evening. But instead, they were fine with it. Now as I tell select people that I am an Aspie, the majority (as far as I know) are fine with it. In fact, some people say that they couldn't tell that I have AS after I tell them about it.



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15 May 2007, 7:02 am

My mother supplies shelter and transport when needed; government pays the bills....

I’m working on rectifying the government part.



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16 May 2007, 4:49 am

I get a lot of support from the people at my clubhouse, both staff and members. I don't know where else to get it.



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16 May 2007, 6:55 am

Mainly right now my support is here, although I have a friend I can talk to to some extent. I have opportunities for support that I often don't take advantage of; it's just hard for me to ask for help.



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16 May 2007, 9:50 am

I get pretty good support, my bf is excellent when it comes to supporting me and my AS and other issues. I have a great friend and therapist but my family isnt always that great to me and my issues.



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16 May 2007, 10:09 am

Addendum: emotional support is supplied by no one because I cannot speak of my emotions verbally; ma or therapist thinks I probably do but I don’t.

Just being in the presence of my ma is enough emotional support for me.... Words mean less than nothing to me.