Don't know what to do in life or how to change

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I am 20 in college taking 2 classes each semester. I used to want to be an electrical engineer but when I really think about being anything it all seems equally uninteresting. I don't have any friends and I am always at home unless I am out doing errands. It isnt that I want friends really, it seems like everybody these days are just toxic and dishonest. I find a genuine person online here and there but never in real life. The only person I really like is my girlfriend who lives across the country now. All I do for fun and for most of the day is play video games. I am getting really tired of doing this but I don't know what to do about it. I think about making friends and going out in society but I just remember that it won't be as fun and will probably just be a waste of time. For the past few months video games have been more infuriating than they have been fun. I don't have a job and never had one, sometimes I wish I had one but I don't know how to get one really. I don't want to work for some crap corporation like McDonalds. Sometimes I think about moving out to some Polynesian island to get away from all these problems. I am getting increasingly angrier at the politics and artifice that come with living in a first world country. Americans are by far the most arrogant people I have ever known and I am disgusted to live in the same country and even being legally considered an American citizen myself. Not that all of them are, but I am generally sick of how many of them are "fake" and also suck up to the military. But back to the main point, I used to think I knew what I was doing in life but now I have no idea. I lost my motivation a few years ago when I realized how crooked the world really is and that I have no apparent future. All I know is I am sick of playing video games every day. I want to do other things but I don't really have any hobbies. I used to have some but I just got bored of them.

You know, this reads like a plain old rut. Happens to everyone at some point, it'd be fair to assume.
Perhaps you need a cross-board reassessment. Chuck out everything and start over.
So your studies aren't engaging you anymore? Reassess whether this is really the right discipline for you. Could you change to something related, so as not to waste your past efforts, but something that interests you more? Maybe something like biomedical engineering? Or perhaps you need to completely radically change your focus, and get into something that has more interest for you?
So your hobbies don't interest you anymore? Maybe rethink what exactly you're passionate about, what you enjoy, what you could get involved with in your area or online. What are you interested in? Have any ideas about things you've always wanted to try but never got into? You could take up something completely different from anything you've ever done before - just give it a shot, and maybe discover something awesome you could get passionate about.
Perhaps, if you are unimpressed with the way your culture is going, perhaps you could try getting involved with an opposing approach? Something close to real life and away from the frivolousness - maybe a refugee relief agency? Volunteering?
The world may be crooked, but your actions don't have to be. You can still find ways to act with genuineness and truth, even if everyone around you chooses to behave otherwise.

Are you just meeting people from your classes? Maybe you could try meeting people who are older than you, from other countries or maybe join a local autism group, if they have one in your area. It seems like people in these groups are less likely to be mean and manipulative.

yeah, i am just like that. except i am 34 years old. no precious lil "friends" and no dates. and no video games either. just surfing the internet. Wrong Planet. yeah i get bored of myself, precious lil "people", and things. the older i get the more things i fear. the more intensely i fear them. the older i get the more precious lil "people" i hate. the more intensely i hate them. so dissociated, edgy, uptight, anxious. no hobbies anymore. not much makes me happy and not much seems to matter. and i ain't got no future either.

if you want, you could move to a different country and/or renounce US citizenship. get rid of some problems and get a new set of different problems.

if everything seems "equally uninteresting", then you can only take skill and $$ into account when choosing a major. jobs that require degrees in electrical engineering pay a lot more money than jobs outside the STEM fields. if everything is equally uninteresting (and if you are equally skilled at all subjects), might as well pick the one that pays more money. all other things being equal. which they are not.

if you are having academic difficulty, hire a tutor. go to office hours. change schools. major in an easier subject.

if you are not having academic difficulty, keep doing what you are doing.

yeah i applied to jobs at McDonalds and In n Out. got an interview for in n out. rejected. mcdonalds never responded to my job application.

applied to a bunch of grocery stores. food maxx, whole foods, bristol farms, sprouts. got totally ignored.

and i do not wanna work for mcdonalds either. angry customers. underage coworkers and bosses.

go to a career counselor. schools usually have one. or go to the career center for your city. discuss how to get a job and what job to get.

everything is a waste of time in some sense. big deal. some articles claim that half of Bachelors holders work at jobs that do not require degrees.

friends. ain't got no precious lil "friends". feel like i have to write a written contract before doing so. almost all of them ended up dumping me in the past. but whatever. they were way too theatrical. dramatic.