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It seems like anywhere I go I feel like I don't get treated like an equal and get bullied regularly. I know that most people get bullied sometimes, but it seems to happen to me all the time. People invade my space, talk about me like I'm not there, they are hostile and discredit me. I almost never know how to respond to it either. Whenever I look up what to do I still can't figure it out. I feel so inadequate. I have so much trouble figuring out these simple things that are very obvious to most people. I know a lot of the things that happen are trivial, but they happen so much. I don't see these things happening to other people so it must be some kind of vibe I give off that causes people to treat me this way. I try not to let it bother me, but it happens so much and I don't know what to do about it.

Getting in a relationship feels impossible. I've been on dates with 22 different guys and I've never even cuddled or kissed anyone. Something is really wrong.

Well 22 dates ain't nothing.
Otherwise, it's difficult to understand what you're getting at without specifics. How do people bully you? What situations are you in, or what are you doing, when this happens? How are people hostile towards you? What exactly are you referencing?
Being unable to figure out social cues which are blindingly obvious to everyone else is a hallmark of autism. I suppose we just all deal with that as best we can in changing conditions. Some people go in for specific therapies on social interaction to attempt to correct this, and I have been to one for autistic adults, but found it to be utter bs.

If you are with a group of acquaintances and they pull the you like and she like and he like type of stuff, stay away from it as much as possible. To me that is middle school behavior. Trying to invoke who you like? You know who you like and don't like. You don't need anyone to prove it.

If you stare at a blank wall does that mean you like the blank wall? No, it is a wall and you looked at it.

Not 22 dates, 22 men.

I don't know what to tell you SLW, but you have my sympathies.

^Yes, 22 different guys, not dates.

They bully me by invading my personal space like I'm not there. It also seem like a lot of people intimidate me because some would walk really close to me when there is plenty of space for them not to do that. They would also do things like throw or slam things really close to me like on a small table I was sitting at. Usually when these things happen I'm usually working or on my phone. They act hostile because I notice a lot of people glaring at me. I also feel like they might discredit me because me and another person might be doing a certain task and they would say that only the person who I was working with would be doing the task.

I know that these things might sound really trivial, but they happen a lot and I don't see these things happen to other people so it must be something about me. Also, when people do these tings I feel frustrated with myself. I don't know how to respond appropriately and it seems like when I try different things they don't work. I also start to have thoughts of these people turning everyone else against me.

It seemed like when I would go to therapy most of them wouldn't get any advice to solve my problems. A lot of them would seem want to put me on medicine and would sugarcoat the things they told me and it didn't help me find any solutions to my problems. There was only one that helped me and I think it was because she specialized in autism and she was so direct.