Feeling hopeless (trigger warning - suicide)

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Gardening is an excellent pastime for a person with depression.

Many people here feel gardening is an excellent solace.

Cannot recommend gardening enough.
I think that is what has mostly kept me sane throughout the years.
It's very grounding, and absolutely absorbing.
Love to get down and dirty in the soil and watch my babies grow.

I also think gardening is a good idea for you. Getting outside & getting some fresh air can really benefit your mind, and it may also distract you from your depression & your other problems. One thing that is important to remember is that gardening takes patience, and some plants & flowers take longer to grow than others. I also know that the weather has to be good & sunny for the plants & flowers to grow. I hope you try it, and that is works well for you.



How are Merlin & Arthur doing? Do you still have fun with them, and do they still like to rough house together? Do you ever call Arthur "King Arthur?" I think it may make a good nickname.



I still want to help you & make you feel better, and I will still be here for you. 300 big dragon hugs.

Since everyone seems to agree that gardening is a very good idea, I'm definitely going to try it. My mom said she was actually planning to just use some weed/plant killer on one side of the garden, pull out the weeds when they're all dead, and then put some containers over it, to try to keep the weeds manageable and start with fresh soil, instead of the stuff the weeds have probably mostly drained of nutrients by now. That means I only have about half as much weeding work to do for now. If I want to get a plant or a few plants that need enough root space that they won't do well in a container, I can put them in the other side of the garden. I also have a kit to grow several species of carnivorous plants, that we just need to get some plant food for before I get them started (in the earlier stages of growth, before they develop the parts that catch insects, they need to get nutrients from the soil - and if I remember correctly (it's been a few months since I read the instructions that came with the kit), you can keep giving them plant food instead of insects if you want, which will be convenient so we don't have to keep running over to the pet store to get insects for them to eat).

Also, I had a job interview today, and an hour or so afterward, I got a call officially offering me the position. It's a cleaning job that looks a lot like the job I had previously - they were delighted that I had previous experience. They said they'd send me more information about when and where to attend an orientation on Monday by email either today or tomorrow, and that I'd be starting the job on Tuesday (they mentioned that they urgently need employees for this position, so I was expecting something like that).

Congratulations on the job!

So you see.....it's not all hopeless!

Wow! I am very happy to hear that you finally got a job! Is it a full-time or a part-time position? I hope that when you start the new job that you will still have time for gardening. I was always confident that you would eventually find a new job; it just took time & patience. I also hope that your new employment will help you with your depression. I guess your next goals will be to start driving & find your own place to live.



300 big hugs.

Congratulations on getting the job Dragons, I knew you could do it! I hope this new job will help towards your goal for independence.

fairly vigorous yardwork seems to have something magical about it in terms of mood.

You are correct that your new part-time job is better than nothing, and I hope you like the job. Back in 2009, when I got my job at the San Diego Public Library, I started with only 3 hours per day, 2 days per week, which was not very much, but better than nothing. Later that year, I got more hours at my job. I hope the same thing will happen with you. If you save some of your money, then maybe you could find your own place to live & move out.



Have you started your gardening projects yet? It is now Spring time, so it is a good time to start, although I am not sure what the weather is like in the Midwest, where you are located. I think it feels good to get outside & get some fresh air in gardens.



Good luck with the job & your gardening. 300 big dragon hugs.

Have you started the job yet?

I would think of this job as a "start"---an excellent start.

Three hours of cleaning would make the time go fast.