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Hi ive just taken myself out of therapy without telling them, cant stand all the emotional stuff they are trying to make me feel, why cant they understand i dont see life the same as them, im fed up with bing told how i should feel, its hard enough living this life sometimes without people telling me im doing it wrong, sometimes i wonder if i was dropped here by mistake, out of something that flew over one day, cause i sure the heck dont think i really belong here, this is probally really daft, but i canmt help how i feel Lefthand

not to take a one sided approach, but if your a high enough functioning person with AS you dont really need therapy anyway.. most of us learn on our own

read somewhere on a wiki article that a person with Aspergers/AS (who has to learn scientifically about social aspects etc rather than naturally as growing up) should, for a time, ignore the world, and go into a hole for some quiet time to be themselves for a while ... to just relax and sorta self medicate after all the acting.

psychotherapy never worked for me either and I heard that counselling doesn't work unless you make an emotional connection with the therapist which is hard/impossible for aspies.
I would tell them you have left though so they can divert the resources to someone else who it may help without keeping the slot open for you and trying to find where you are.

I just went on a mild rant about this sort of thing last night on another thread. Fact of the matter is, the doctors are so egotistical (like many NTs) that they can't imagine anyone ever being truly different from them and still being just as "good" as them. There is nothing wrong with us. Once again. There is nothing wrong with us. We are a genetic variant with our own unique traits, our own legitimate perspective, behavioral tendencies, and needs. For every flaw we have that they don't, we have a gift that they don't. I guarantee you, if the world were 99% Aspie and .1% NT, just the opposite of how it is now, they would be the ones with the "problem". Our way of doing things can work just as well as theirs, it's just that the world is made up of mostly NTs and therefore everything, even societal norms, are set up for them. In an Aspie world, loud/obnoxious ads (or behavior) might be illegal, since it would be understood that such things are bad for society, but dressing (walking, etc.) oddly or not looking people in the eye would go unnoticed. NTs probably wouldn't have as much to worry about if we were in control, though, because we tend to give others more space to be different from ourselves. We might not claim that neurotypicality was a disease like they've done to Asperger's, but we'd have just as much right to.

The only thing you might have needed therapy for is the emotional damage they've done to you for being different from them. If you can get over that, you're totally fine, and that includes keeping your Aspie traits intact. They were probably just telling you in a round-about way how inferior you are for being different and trying to get you to "cope" with it by changing. They can't even see that their very attempts to help reek of pity and egoism. That's why I haven't gone to be diagnosed, even though I know I'm an Aspie -- I refuse to pay a group of hypocrites claiming to be professionals so they can tell me I'm diseased and how I should be more like them, just because I think better (yes, better, in so many ways) than them. They can't be rational about it because they're too busy being emotional about it, just like they do with everything else. We don't suffer from that "symptom" because we don't have their "neurotypicality syndrome". I think we should establish a league of Aspie psychologists and start "diagnosing" them, telling them how they need to learn to overcome and hide their "unhealthy" need to constantly socialize in a trivial manner, and how they need to "cope" with the fact that they can't think as rationally as us. Anyway, I had better stop before I really get carried away.

Hi thanks yes i will tell them ive left on monday kinda working up to it, i think your right though i think i will be better on my own learning, yes im on loads of meds, but i have other things wrong with me as well, thanks 4 taking the time to talk to me take care you all love Lefthand xxx

i wouldn't stand somebody telling me how i should feel. good luck!

The only therapy I ever had which helped was from someone who had a thorough understanding of AS and who had experience of working with people with AS. He saw aspies as equals, not people who needed to be 'cured' or 'corrected'.

He also didn't believe in unnecessary delving into the past.

He was the only person who ever helped me. All the other therapists I saw just confused me and some, once they realised that their 'therapy' wasn't working, became abusive and it turned out to be a damaging experience.

Counselling definitely was of no sue to me.