Well, my family ruined the day out

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I went to see the Harry Potter Studio Tour with my family. It was incredible. My family though *really* didn't appreciate it. They barely paid attention to all of the intricate work behind the scenes, and they each kept saying in a huffy dismissive tone stuff like, "I can't be bothered to read this" and "I didn't like that in the film". My nan sat down and didn't want to look at anything. None of them wanted to read anything, they walked straight past everything, including a few major props.

There was a room with masks, the mechanisms behind them and other props, and there was a film playing in there demonstrating how it all worked. My family didn't stay to watch that either.

They didn't want to look at the costumes, drawings, paintings, or the mini cardboard constructions of sets. They weren't interested in the amazing detail behind it all.

I had to rush to keep up with them. I wanted to look and explore it all.

My camera was still hidden away in moving boxes, and so I asked my mother to take photos for me that day. There were a few major things she missed out, and I'm really upset. She's pretty good at photography, but she really didn't want to bother this time. None of the photos were taken properly, with the tops and bottoms of items missing outside the frames. Why was she so reluctant? What did she have against the whole tour? Did she hate it that much?

I want a Harry Potter fan to come with me, so I can explore it all again properly and not have to rush, and have someone who appreciates all of the intricate detail, consideration and *real talent* behind the scenes and everything about the Harry Potter films. A giant HP fan, in other words. My family were very dismissive. I just don't understand why.

Sounds familiar.

Sounds like there was some passive/aggressive behavior going on by certain family member(s) of yours, that narcissistic abuse (or at least attitudes) may be involved, and that you may be seen as the scapegoat of the family.

I'm sorry about how you were treated.

aw, hugs. If I lived there, I would so go with you! I love Hary Potter, but you wouldn't want me to take pictures! I know all about family ruining things for you. All too well. They are so good at that. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

Well, I disagree with what others said above. I am not into fantasy at all and have never read a complete Harry Potter book and just wouldn't be interested in the theme park either. You're thinking they are being dismissive of your interests, and I'm thinking that they simply don't share them.

So go again and this time get a real HP fan to go with you.

Where did I say they were being dismissive of my interests, or me?

Yes, they weren't into HP. It contradicts what they've said before about HP, which was what pissed me off. If I had known they weren't very into it, I would not have bothered with the organization of a day trip. It was a waste of time.

I just want out. I need a change of scenery. I want an adventure.

They were dismissive of the tour, I guess. OK, so if you're correct and they were dismissive of me, what's your reasons for it? Maybe there's something I haven't seen.

I think this is a case where they just didn't want to go to the Harry Potter Studio.

Because of this fact, they were passive-aggressive.

They just "went through the motions." And they felt forced to "go through the motions."

I didn't think they were dismissive at all, just uninterested. They probably went to the studio tour to humor you, I'm guessing. Sounds like Harry Potter is a special interest of yours?

Very curious. It would make a lot of sense.

I will say this - ever since my sister has had children, my family have paid a lot less attention to me, and wanting to see me at all. They put her children above everything else. When it comes to me now they're like "Meh" - with everything.

For instance, today I found out BIG news from an important meeting my mother almost didn't attend cos she was going to babysit for my sister. She was highly considering babysitting instead of going to the meeting. The news was about my housing situation, and I've now got a lot more options from them, which is excellent, and a massive deal.

I had to find it out by calling my mother, and the news was six hours ago. It would have taken my mother less than a minute to let me know. It's as if I have been put on the backburner.

Also, I wanted to go out for my birthday, and my family all tried to get out of it. They never used to be like this. They all avoid me now, rather than just me avoiding them, despite me having calmed down *a lot* since the whole noisy neighbours and moving thing. It hurts a little.

I feel ignored and unwanted by them. I'm used to being my mother's special interest, my AS and all of that. Except my family never wanted what I wanted, but tried to force on me what they believed was best for me. And I hated it. And now I've really been dropped. Maybe I have my freedom at last.

My brother treats me similarly.

Not really related.

You don't choose your family. It's the job of company you don't choose to ruin your day—who else would do it, after all? You certainly wouldn't choose someone to ruin your day.

I know the feeling. My family are very similar. I'm probably the more successful career-wise in my family but still treated like the weird one. I know for a fact my sisters and mother say not nice things about me behind my back but I try to ignore is as it would upset the family. They also got £24k from when my uncle died some months ago. They gave £2k to both my sisters and left me out. They don't know I know this...but I do...They said I could have the old car when they bought a new one with the money...they bought a new one and gave the old car to my sister who doesn't even have a licence but is doing lessons. My partner thinks I should dis-own them...

I sort of take comfort from the fact that ultimately I am more successful than them so they can say/do what they want

Anyway...I'm a Harry Potter fan AND I live in London. Would be very happy to go with you