Had to stand up against to the co-supervisor b***h again

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The co-supervisor I've had problems with for years at my job has once again accused me of something I didn't do. She asked me a yes or no question about something totally stupid (If I went ahead to shelf read after being asked) and I replied yes. She denied I did and kept pressuring me until I raised my voice after trying to be calm and she stopped asking.

I've been walked over on for too many times in my life. I am not letting it happen anymore.

Do you need this job and what would be required for you to get a new job?

It sounds like she is using a very common attack strategy utilized by psychopaths and sociopaths when physical violence is not possible for whatever reason (in this case probably because it is not socially acceptable for you to get violent with a woman, she can call security on you if you do, and, since you have more muscle mass as a male, you will face far greater punishment than her should any altercation take place).

The strategy is to probe a person (you) in order to identify any things that they are sensitive about and store those in your memory for later use. Then, when advantageous for whatever reason (or just for fun), you push those buttons relentlessly in a subtle and passive aggressive way (or even not subtle way as long as it is not physically aggressive so you don't face consequences). The goal is to feed off of the negative emotion illicited in the other person, enjoy knowing that you have the power over them to cause that distress, and/or drive them to blow up emotionally or even physically so that you can paint yourself to any bystanders as the victim and get them removed from your path by security, an angry mob, or whatever other people decide to step in to virtue signal and/or be heroes.

The fact that this is happening to you probably means that you are an obstacle to her in some way whether it be for a promotion, getting someone she likes better to replace you, using you as an example, or because you are a better employee and more skilled than her so removing you would make her look better as there would be one less person superior to her in the workplace.

Does any of this sound accurate?

The good news is that you may likely be dealing with a corporate psychopath so this is not necessarily the result of anything you have done wrong. The bad news is that, unless you can get this person fired somehow, there is no way they are not going to keep doing this to you now that they have known they could for so long. The only answer in that case is to set a boundary and enforce it by going to a superior above her and saying that if they do not straighten her out or get rid of her, you will leave and then leave if they take no significant action. Or just leave now because it is not worth it if you are already capable of getting another job.

Good for you!

As for the threat of losing your job - you hate it anyway. Sometimes a big blowup is the impetus we need to go to a better place.