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ZZZTired
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04 Feb 2018, 3:41 pm

I have a hard time being humble towards people.



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04 Feb 2018, 3:50 pm

Humility can go a long way.

Thus trait just might save our species.



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04 Feb 2018, 9:11 pm

What is the definition of "selfish", in the dictionary?

You can't measure selfishness.

Besides maybe it is not possible or practical, to care about everyone an equal amount



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04 Feb 2018, 9:17 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
What is the definition of "selfish", in the dictionary? You can't measure selfishness. Besides maybe it is not possible or practical, to care about everyone an equal amount

dr. Robert Hare had some good ideas about the subject.



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04 Feb 2018, 10:50 pm

So let's see... Caring about people is crazy, and not caring about people is just as crazy... Hmmm... Maybe I can't avoid being crazy at all.



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04 Feb 2018, 10:52 pm

it's a crazy world we live in.



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04 Feb 2018, 11:16 pm

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04 Feb 2018, 11:21 pm

when one gets to be my vintage, one eventually sucks up less and blows out more.



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04 Feb 2018, 11:30 pm

Please don't push my buttons Auntblabby. I didn't find your vintage joke funny.



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05 Feb 2018, 7:36 am

Due you think selfishness can be a survival tactic? If life is harder for you I think at times you have to put yourself first just to stay afloat.



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05 Feb 2018, 8:51 am

Daniel

Yes. It is much easier to not be selfish, when your own survival needs have been fulfilled

However, it could be a "survival tactic" to have an "in" group too. Cliques, like in middle school. Except for adults.

Not just physical survival, but social and emotional survival

Maybe selfishness is a continuum, not a binary

Maybe selfishness is not always a bad thing

Sometimes selfishness is necessary and functional

You can't measure selfishness