Group of Aspies demonized my name

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Summer_Twilight
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13 Jan 2018, 10:49 pm

Earlier today:
Some of my friends(Who also have Asperger's) got invited to the birthday party of another friend of mine while I wasn't invited because we don't facebook friends though she told them that she wanted to invite me. :roll: Anyway, several other friends of hers, are also on the spectrum, went who don't like me because we don't get along for a number of reasons.

Earlier this evening,
I got a text message from one of my friends stating that another friend asked about me while explaining that a huge number of people among this group got mad and started demonizing my name by saying, "Don't mention that name again." Later, I called my friend who asked about me and he said that one of them called me "Voldemort, the one who is not to be named." He also told me that they mentioned that we had a huge fight.

Though I would love to confront these people, I feel it would not be a good idea as I have tried in the past and have gotten backlash.



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13 Jan 2018, 11:06 pm

I agree that confronting the people involved wouldn't be useful -- there's nothing you would gain by it, so I don't think there's a point. My inclination would be to gradually disengage from those people (without making any special issue of it), since it appears they aren't really your friends anyway.

I think you have the common aspie-ish desire to logically analyze people's non-logical behavior, but no matter how hard you try, it may just never be logically analyzable. (Do you know your Myers-Briggs personality type?)

Now I'm going to watch the last two episodes of Star Trek: Voyager. :D


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14 Jan 2018, 12:55 am

Star Trek is great,live long and prosper.

Anyway, I used to be friends with the leader of the pack as he was really nice to my friends and I until he started getting involved in different things with other people. Then he started pushing the buttons of other people until they set boundaries with him while he went around and start gossiping about them.

As far as those other people go, I got along with them at first until he started spreading things about me and most were dumb enough to believe him.



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15 Jan 2018, 8:43 pm

Summer_Twilight wrote:
Earlier today:
Some of my friends(Who also have Asperger's) got invited to the birthday party of another friend of mine while I wasn't invited because we don't facebook friends though she told them that she wanted to invite me. :roll: Anyway, several other friends of hers, are also on the spectrum, went who don't like me because we don't get along for a number of reasons.

Earlier this evening,
I got a text message from one of my friends stating that another friend asked about me while explaining that a huge number of people among this group got mad and started demonizing my name by saying, "Don't mention that name again." Later, I called my friend who asked about me and he said that one of them called me "Voldemort, the one who is not to be named." He also told me that they mentioned that we had a huge fight.

Though I would love to confront these people, I feel it would not be a good idea as I have tried in the past and have gotten backlash.


It would be unusual to not get backlash when you confront someone. Anyway those people aren't worth your time.



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09 Feb 2018, 10:31 am

Chronos wrote:
Summer_Twilight wrote:
Earlier today:
Some of my friends(Who also have Asperger's) got invited to the birthday party of another friend of mine while I wasn't invited because we don't facebook friends though she told them that she wanted to invite me. :roll: Anyway, several other friends of hers, are also on the spectrum, went who don't like me because we don't get along for a number of reasons.

Earlier this evening,
I got a text message from one of my friends stating that another friend asked about me while explaining that a huge number of people among this group got mad and started demonizing my name by saying, "Don't mention that name again." Later, I called my friend who asked about me and he said that one of them called me "Voldemort, the one who is not to be named." He also told me that they mentioned that we had a huge fight.

Though I would love to confront these people, I feel it would not be a good idea as I have tried in the past and have gotten backlash.


It would be unusual to not get backlash when you confront someone. Anyway those people aren't worth your time.


A close friend of mine told me that he got in touch with one of them and asked them not to be disrespectful because he didn't feel comfortable with what they were doing.

When he first told me, I told him that if they were going to talk like that about me others, that he had a right to leave their gatherings. I also gave him permission to tell those people to knock it off.



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10 Feb 2018, 12:32 pm

I wouldn't say anything, but I would buy a Voldemort t'shirt or sweatshirt and wear it to death. They would know that you knew and were not fazed by it. They would prob see how petty they are being and feel a bit silly. And Voldemort's cool too :D



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12 Feb 2018, 8:02 am

Besides, they can't say, "Voldemort, he who must not be named" because they just named him, which is a contradiction. Please, what kind of Aspies are these, incorrectly using Harry Potter references?!



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12 Feb 2018, 2:37 pm

AspieSingleDad wrote:
Besides, they can't say, "Voldemort, he who must not be named" because they just named him, which is a contradiction. Please, what kind of Aspies are these, incorrectly using Harry Potter references?!

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12 Feb 2018, 2:46 pm

I’m a really bad Aspie. I don’t know much about Harry Potter.