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Sarahsmith
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24 Mar 2018, 2:36 pm

I worry about getting older. My parents help me out with a lot of things and it will suck when they will be too old to help or dead. I could get support from mental health services I guess. They can only help so much though. Dont really have any siblings or family to help out after my parents go. Dont have any friends yet. I wonder if I will in the future.

Does anyone else feel like they will be screwed when their parents are gone?



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24 Mar 2018, 3:46 pm

Yes, I don't rely on mine to get by, it's more that there won't be anyone to call in an emergency, or to notice if I die, or to send Christmas cards to, that sort of thing. My sister doesn't speak to me and since she cut me out, I no longer receive any cards or anything from my five nephews, although I still send them Christmas and Birthday presents.

It's very scary to think of being completely on my own. My parents are getting on.



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24 Mar 2018, 4:11 pm

This is one way you can really bond with others on WP.

Many people here have similar concerns.

And it's an understandable concern.

One thing I'm glad of: you seem to get along with your parents.



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24 Mar 2018, 9:36 pm

I absolutely worry about this too. At age 37, pretty much the only people that I really come close to truly talking to is my parents.

I get along really well with my brother, but don't really talk to him very often except when visiting him a few times a year, and don't talk about difficulties in life. And I don't have any friends. So ya, I'm definitely worried about what things will be like in the future.


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25 Mar 2018, 3:47 am

I don't think about it much since my parents are still more or less in good health and I can handle all the basic every day things on my own, but maybe I should worry about the future more. I mean one thing I need help with is my physical disability. When it starts acting up and I need to go to a doctor, I always have my mom with me (well, dad a few times when mom's been really busy, but mostly mom) because I still can't understand all the professional terms after all these years, take things too literally and sometimes just don't understand the guestions. That and my parents would want to know what the doctor said anyway and even if I did understand I most likely wouldn't be able to explain it, so it's more convinient for one of them to come along. On top of this I have some very basic household stuff that I still struggle with since I haven't had the chance to practice 'cause they aren't every day things and I have trouble understanding different official documents that I have to fill... but well, that's why I'm trying my hardest to learn to do this stuff without them.

What about you? Think you'd be able to learn to handle at least some of the stuff your parents help you with now on your own? Might make thoughts about the future a little less scary.