I hate my redneck father

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My father is partly responsible for my social struggles. He would never ask me what I wanted to do or encourage me to follow my passions. If we went anywhere, it was only what he wanted to do and he made me go along because he wanted me to feel "invited". Even on events like my birthdays, he wouldn't ask me and had something pre-planned for the day.

He says stupid things, is willfully ignorant, blasts country music, and claims to be a Christian and is so upright but is in reality a huge sleaze bag behind the scenes. He's always had a following of mistresses and used to shame me for wanting a girlfriend or for looking at porn but it's ok for him to constantly seek out affairs and lead on women. He even had a girl my age come over to his house for a date while I was there and he knows damn well how much I struggle to even get a date.

Doesn't seem like the sharpest tool in the shed.....

I'm sure he has some good qualities, though.

Even my brother, who loves Trump and leans towards Rush Limbaugh, has good qualities.

I grew up in a redneck town, it really depends on the individual on whether or not they will change some of their views. A lot of it is the culture in rural areas, stubbornness and strict adherence to old fashioned values- especially overzealous religious practices - have been ingrained in many people's minds for a long time. It usually takes another family member to open their minds to different viewpoints and lifestyles, perhaps that could be you, if you're able to get through to him with words alone.

It's a lost cause. He would rather further grow his web of mistresses than listen to his son. I've expressed my viewpoints to him and he will say something like "You're too negative." or he'll just stare off into space.

If you're serious about hating him, not just many traits that he has then how about just cutting him off? You know, don't call him, don't go see him, ignore his calls... it's not good for your mental health to be around people you hate. If you're sure he'll never change, why waste your time in his company? Blood ties are extremely overrated anyway; one does not choose which family they're born in to after all. Of course family can be important and it's good if it is, but if things just don't work with them then continuing to try just because they're related is a bad idea.

I still don't understand the term redneck, though. Wikipedia says "the redneck has been stereotyped in the media and popular culture as a poor, dirty, uneducated, and racist Southern white man." Is this the kind of person you mean when you talk about rednecks?

I'll be honest here; he's not a good parent at all. Anyone who is constantly churning through mistresses and lovers like that is TROUBLE. I've seen this before in my own extended family and plenty of people I've known and they are more often than not mentally screwed up. Get away from him as soon as you can!

As blah a dad as this guy seems there have been far worse fathers reported here. Like abusive fathers who put their kids into a living hell.

It can be frustrating to have redneck parents though. I grew up in a hick household and it sucked. It was dirty and cold all the time. My dad spanked me and sometimes roughed me up. They tried their best as parents though. At least I have some good memories even though it sucked. Lol

He actually leaves me alone for the most part since he moved back to his hometown and he's more interested in sneaking around with his mistresses. He only comes down to see his grandchildren or something else family related. I will admit maybe I was being harsh in saying I hate him. I tend to let my anger go to my head and I vent through writing but I sometimes feel remorseful about saying I hate someone. I guess it's more I am irritated and exasperated.

For the most part, that's what I mean by rednecks. Some are actually rich but still think things like "Amurica! f**k yeah!", "You ain't taking my guns!", and "You must be a demuhcrat!" if you aren't homophobic, sexist, and non-religious.



I don't live with him which is a good thing. He moved back to his hometown which is a complete podunk.



I will give him that. He didn't abuse me but he did shame me and didn't encourage me to follow my passions. Instead, he told me not to do anything that would make people think I was "weird".

I got spanked as well. I am surprised that there are rednecks in Canada. I actually saw rodeos in a book about Canada and a Canadian aspie I follow on YouTube (Who also struggles to get girlfriends like I do) has told me Canadian rednecks do indeed exist.

I'm pretty sure that narrowminded and old fashioned people exist pretty much everywhere...

A redneck is usually anyone who is dirty, dumb, rural-minded, and mentally lazy. They don't have to be from the Old South to be a redneck, or even male for that matter.

Having lived in a “red-neck “ area of Canada and been to rodeos, l’d only go with the “rural-minded” part of your definition. Any mentally lazy aspects would be individualistic rather than a group trait.

He sounds plain selfish and self-centered to me. People like that are plain toxic, regardless of what group they may be affiliated with.

In some ways you can refer to my late mother as being a redneck. She was ultra-religious, close-minded and stayed as far away from learning anything new as the typical ignorant redneck.

Generally, I refrain from being insulting to these narrow-minded folks because they can't help it that their intellect is stunted. It's not their fault.

I'm grateful to live in a country at a time where intellectuals are prized. Can you imagine living in Cambodia during the Khmer Rouge days in 1975? The first persons to get rounded up for execution were the glasses-wearing school teachers and other intellectuals because they were sure to criticize and be against the new communist rules.

When I was in high school in NY, my mother's religiousness got so bad that my only recourse was to go to college in Iowa. i would've went to the Univ of Alaska if I was accepted. Best to get away from these small-minded people. They don't have the capacity or ability to change.

The name "redneck" is usually considered an insult so an academic discussion of it is a moot point.

My mother is attracted to redneck men but will always complain about their diets and growing stomachs. Well, what do you expect from a culture that thinks "I love animals-they're delicious!" (An actual slogan in an ad by Ted Nugent) and prefers All-you-can-eat buffets over three square meals a day?