Cute Asian girl at the park already taken

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I sometimes go to a park to clear my head and get some fresh air. Unfortunately, this time didn't go well and I wish I didn't go at all now. There were quite a few people my age at the park and most of them were couples. One that especially stood out to me was a guy and his girlfriend who was a cute glasses wearing Asian girl who was also wearing a Legend of Zelda t-shirt and a Hello Kitty backpack. The guy had a geeky/nerdy girlfriend, a kind of person I want to be in a special relationship with but I don't have that in my life. Why can't I have a special partner? I hate myself even more now.

Like I wrote in the other thread, you actually did a smart thing by calling your family when your car screwed up.

The alternator is not bad. I fixed my alternator once. It cost $240. The car ran for about three more years after I put in the new alternator (Of course, the guy in the shop did it, not me).

My uncle replaced my alternator for me. But what I saw at the park has just made me feel bad all over again.

This is the world I live in. My story never goes the way I want it to go, my dreams are denied, and I am forced to see others live their lives.

So tell me Markins why do you think you will never get a girlfriend? Why do you think it is hopeless?

Why not take it as more of, perhaps there aren't only conservative christians and republicans within the vicinity of where you live. Sure that girl appeared to be taken....but maybe she is not the only geek girl in the entire vicinity. I mean you've had the same job for quite a while, sounds like you have a vehicle, you have some interests and even an idea of the sort of woman you like, so you have some things going for you. The worst part of your physical situation seems to be still living at home, and not having full control over your money but a lot of people in that situation don't have a job or a vehicle. The longest I can usually keep a job is a couple months.

I think your biggest problem now is self loathing. You have to start seeing value in yourself or you'll never feel like you're good enough...which will just feed the perpetual cycle. So it may be a good idea to work towards that...and you've gotta stop attaching that value to whether you have a girlfriend or not. You don't have a girl-friend now, that has nothing to do with your value as a person and doesn't mean you can never find anyone.

I know even some topics on this forum and such perpetuate the idea that if you're male and not in a relationship you're a complete utter failure/waste of time...but that's a bunch of B.S.

Indeed not having a girlfriend doesn't mean you are a failure.

Write down things you like about yourself!

On March 19th, the population in Asia would be +/- 2 billion (China, Korea, Japan, Vietnam, Taiwan etc)

50% of those are women = 1 billion, your estimated age range (20-35) is about 8% = 80 MILLION Asian girls.

Suppose that you are compatible with 20% of them (interests, hobbies, socially) = 16 MILLION Asian girls.

Many of them are looking for a new life abroad. Suppose 10% may want to, and can afford to migrate to your country = 1.6 MILLION Asian girls, that are just waiting for you to contact them

Feel better?