I should of told her I have Aspergers

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One time I met this girl off Tinder and I put her off overtime because of my lack of social skills. Sometimes I think if I had told her that I have Aspergers then she would of understand me because she told me she has a brother with autism and she was a open book. I don't know why I didn't think of telling her when she told me "tell me about yourself". I been hung up over her for a few months because she fit my description of the perfect girl FOR ME. Maybe if I told her then that would of put her off even more. She probably didn't want to date someone with Asperger, Maybe she would of want someone who is NT especially since her brother has autism. The What If factor is what is haunting my mind.

Forget it, you don't really know if she is your dream girl anyway if you never even met and it at least doesn't sound like you chatted much. Just like she doesn't know about your aspergers there might be things she didn't tell you about herself as well. Nobody is perfect.

Don't beat yourself up over it. I'm not sure I would tell someone before I met them either and if I would I would do it after at least a week of chatting everyday to see that the person would be someone willing to accept that because some are while others have no patience for these things or aren't serious enough to care (especially if you're on Tinder).

IF you did talk quite a lot though and got to know each other and not too much time have passed you could try again though, take up contact and see if she still seems open to continue having contact and if she does you can tell her. If you do take up contact again, take it slow so you can see what she feels now. There is no point in telling her if she's moved on but again don't beat yourself up over it because in that case it probably wasn't meant to be.

It's Tinder. You will not find anything serious or long term monogamous there.
These sorts of conversations come and go and there's a good chance you didn't do anything at all to annoy her or scare her off. Women have countless men DM'ing them on these apps. It's easy to get lost in the crowd even if you're a big catch.

I guess all I'm saying is you're placing too much stock into one person you matched with on an app which is notorious of having a very disposal hookup culture.

You'll find somewhere else to click with potential mates who are after something which is more deserving of your time.

About the Aspie thing, it's best you only share that when you're comfortable to.
You shouldn't have to feel it is an excuse for who you are, just part of what makes you this person they should get to know.
If you come across as quirky, embrace it. Some people find it cute, or exciting.

If you want to know her reaction, regardless of what it may be, why can’t you just contact her and tell her and see if she responds?

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