I'll either become a sleazy older man or an older "creep"

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I've realized that part of the reason why I don't want to turn 30 before having a girlfriend is because I fear of becoming two things I don't want to be. When I was wondering why I didn't have a girlfriend and why the girls didn't look at me, I read some articles as well as stories from girls my age that stated they preferred older men. I remember when I tried a "fling site" out of desperation (Waste of money), a girl my age had a video called "My Passion for Older Men" and she was having sex with a man who looked like he was 40.
I've also seen older guys threaten younger guys away from girls. My father is one of those guys and he stole potential girlfriends from me.
But on the other hand, I read stories from older men who never dated before and they were considered "strange" or even a potential serial killer in waiting by women, even if they managed to get some dates or even relationships (They ended when the women found out about the men's past).

How's it working, to stop obsessing about girlfriends and instead work on yourself?

I'm 57 years old. And I'm neither a "sleazy older man," nor an "older creep."

And this would be true even if I've never had a relationship.

You have to get out of this thought pattern. Because it'll lead you nowhere, and it will lead you away from what is true.

^It’s true: he is a “wolf man”.

^^Indubitably

I wouldn't call you either of those things. My thoughts are more along the line of guys I knew in school who bullied me and tried to snatch every girl they could just to rub it in my face as well as hardcore PUAs who think only they are worthy of getting girls.

The older you get, the less you encounter "PUA" types.

Or those "bully" types.

Or women who like those types. Women in their 30's get sick and tired of those types.

I've encountered both of these sorts of people. They become a distinct minority by the time a person hits his/her 30s.

I've actually been told "Get a girlfriend!" as an insult and some still tell me things like "It will happen when you aren't looking!" or "It will happen when you least expect it!" despite how I am almost 30.

I was just going to ask that.

I also think you would be much happier if you stopped taking things to heart.

I honestly don't know where or how to start. My mind has been stuck since 2006.

I really hope you're right. If another 12 years go by and nothing has changed, I think I will truly snap.

I simply plan to not live past 5 more years.

it happened to me when I least suspected it will, unfortunately many years after the physiology would support having a GF. and it taught me I seem to lack the proper genes for such in the first place.

SCRATCH THAT, past more than 100 years.

If you want ,me don’t want to be alive now, definitely don’t want to live past 35 if this is all life is gong be. I don’t like existing just to exist so others can feel high and mighty.
So unless some woman comes along soon it’s too late. I think it’s already too late unless some 22ish woman decided to date me