Allistic announcing I'm autistic at party?

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I was at a gathering/small party at my (allistic) brother's apartment the other day. I don't know how autism came up, but when it did, he said aloud to everyone in the room how autism is a part of who his brothers are (mentioning me specifically), and that he wouldn't have us any other way. This made me a bit uncomfortable. Sometimes I tell people I'm autistic, but a lot of times I just don't bring it up because of stigma, misconceptions, and how I was treated in the past. I don't feel like someone should be announcing my neurotype out of the blue like that, especially because it felt like I was a token character being used to prove his 'progressive mindset'. I appreciate that he is accepting and supportive, I really do. He's more understanding than most people in my life when it comes autism. But I feel like my autism was being used to prove a point, and I wasn't asked permission first. There weren't a ton of people there but I didn't know most of them. It felt awkward, and I'm not sure how or if to react. Has this happened to you before? Any thoughts on this kind of situation?

Even though it's a part of who you are, it doesn't have to be your defining trait.

I think he expressed admiration for you.

I wouldn’t be upset with him.

I'd have been peed off.
Yeah it's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about but it's your decision to share it. Very few know about mine. I don't like to talk about it. I would be very upset if one of those people told someone else without a valid reason.

I'm sure my boxing trainer has told people because I often have meltdowns there. But I can't think of a single other reason someone should be telling others.

Text your bro if you don't feel comfortable saying it, just say you'd prefer if he didn't tell people.

i'd be totally melted with adoration in ur shoes. but well, thats me. i never had acceptance from family. i understand ur reaction and why's. but i'd rather have that, than having my identity ghosted. sorry, im in a s**t state rn.

Hmmmmm. This subject makes me wonder if I should think twice about asking other people if they're autistic.

If a person doesn't want other people to know they're autistic, they have the right to that privacy.