Does life need to be more than eating, sleeping and entertai

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I'm a happy person for the most part. Or at least satisfied for the most part. Emotionally I'm usually in neutral rather than happy or sad.

Anyways my life consists of eating, sleeping and entertainment. Entertainment being just reading, gaming, watching tv/videos/movies and going for walks.

And that's it and I'm perfectly satisfied with it. Although I'm sure society would call that going nowhere, vegetating, being a couch potato etc. I need to be more ambitious, have a more fulfilling life etc blah blah blah.

(for those who don't know me I have moderate to severe autism ane physical disability that factors into this).

If you're satisfied with life as it is you've achieved Nirvana imo.

FWIW I'm constantly neutral unless I dip below it.

As Raleigh said, enjoy your Nirvana , you views may change , they may not.

If it ain't broke don't fix it imo

It's interesting for me that, after 30-40 years of playing guitar and recording songs, being a nurse, taxi driver and recording engineer, writing and publishing books and screenplays, having several different cars, going to college, living in different states, riding miles on my bikes, abusing drugs and alcohol, driving cross country twice, visiting four countries, seeing a lot of concerts, etc, my life now is pretty much as what Ezra's defines his to be.

Still, to break up that monotony, I do things like walk around with my old DV camera shooting footage to edit on my computer or downloading concert bootlegs to add to my growing collection. My physical health definitely isn't what it used to be when I was younger. My legs, especially, gives me constant problems; however, I often wonder if I can go back to being a musician or writer again. These days I don't feel like it, but you never know. Thus, for me, life does need to be more than eating, sleeping and entertainment since I do have a little physical capability left to accomplish minor things.

As long as you're content (and it seems like you're content), that's all that matters.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it.
My life consists of eating, sleeping and spending time in front of the computer(that includes my job). I feel like I have nothing to complain about.

That is the same thing I do

Paranoid about $$

Feel unfulfilled vocationally

Did not self actualize

Feel guilty and lazy

Like a loser, burnout, slacker, freak

And that is bad

But there are worse things

When I was younger, there were some dreams that I chased for years, and then wondered why they weren't fulfilling on the rare occasions that they came true. It took me a long time to realise that they hadn't really ever been my dreams at all.

Because my kind of autism has allowed me to mask my autism a fair bit, there have been opportunities open to me which maybe are not to you; but as I've gotten older, I've slowly drifted into a life much like the one you describe, albeit you have the consequences of your additional disabilities to deal with, and I have responsibilities for my own care that I often struggle to cope with (these are in no way comparable, of course). I get the "lacking ambition, blah, blah" speech from people a lot, because I attempted a life more like theirs in the past, and my masking led them to believe that I could do it. Every time I got a bit too close to that kind of life, my mental health completely collapsed under the weight of it. I still have to make plenty of compromises; I still have some goals for improvement; and I even still have the odd battle with depression and loneliness; but overall, my "unambitious" life is much more satisfying and much less anxious than when I was chasing things that I never really wanted or were way beyond my reach.

Ezra, you might be in between phases in your life. You have finished high school, and not yet attempted college. What I am getting at is, feeling content and comfortable right now, might not mean you are going to be the same way in 8 or 10 years.

Most of us benefit by having a sense of purpose. That can be hard for people with a lot of challenges in just getting through a day. It can also be hard for people who can mask and succeed for a while, but not long-term. Choosing our battles, or at least our challenges, can be quite a challenge in itself.

My purpose, right now in my life, is to take care of my husband with Alzheimer's until the end of his days, and to do it kindly and respectfully. Honestly, I do not know what I will live for when that goal is over. Maybe I will be a reading tutor, that seems useful and something I could do.

Get a job!! !

Seriously.....your existence really is okay, as long as you're not harming anyone in the process. How do your parents feel about what you're doing. If they're not complaining, you're quite okay. When you go on the Internet, you frequently learn something. Even posting here on WP teaches you social skills, and how to deal with people in general.

Are you thinking about going to college?

Kortie:

All thing being equal, it is better to have a job and or go to college, than not do either one

(Fine)

Not everyone has the $$, health or personality to go to college.

College is not necessarily for everyone.

Plenty of people with degrees are underemployed or unemployed

Not everyone has a job

Autism discrimination at work

There are many reasons why someone can't find a job

Some jobs hurt people, in some ways

I was only kidding when I said that, Ezra. I believe I understand your situation.

I do wish you would go to college, though. There will be opportunities for more "online" jobs in future years. Home-based jobs.

And then....there's the aspect where you become more disciplined in your intellectual/philosophical aspects You can hone your debate skills in college. You can become more persuasive in your arguments should you go beyond high school.

I'm pretty sure Ezra is going to be a lawyer one day.

"need" in what way?

Some precious lil "people" use "need" broadly. As a command

But plenty of people are homeless and they have not yet just dropped dead