Husband's real sick :(

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My husband is hospitalized again, this time in a bigger hospital... Severe blood in stool, pancreatitis, kidney problems, diabetes out of control, etc...

My aunt's husband is sick too, but he's even sicker than my husband with cancer and everything... They think that guy will die soon

Poor guy just wants to enjoy his new place...

I'm sorry for your trouble; I hope that they get him sorted and he feels better soon.

Sorry about your husband and uncle, my friend.

I am so sorry to hear your husband is so ill. Repeat hospitalizations are so stressful. Take care of yourself the best you can. I hope the hospital can get him back in shape soon. Same for your uncle.

How scary and heavy all this must be feeling for you. I am sorry you are facing this huge challenge, and hope that improvement will arrive soon, and that you can get the rest that you will particularly need as you travel through this anxious and painful episode.

I went back to my apartment for tonight. Anyway all I can do is see what tomorrow brings.

It's always something, isn't it? I'm sorry you and your husband are dealing with this; your uncle, too. Hope you are all feeling better soon.

Does your husband have trouble controlling his diabetes?

The old truism of "one day at a time, one thing (ONLY) at a time" has helped me negotiate these very dark life phases. Sometimes I reduced it to "ten minutes at a time" or even "just this minute in time", refusing for that length of time to reflect backwards in time or speculate on the future however near or far.

At the worst of times I would lay down on my back on my bed and try to turn myself into a mimic of a floppy rag doll, and block out everything but the sound of birds outside and the soft purring of my beloved cat.

Sometimes we have to find these kind of temporary refuges from outer reality when external events arrive too fast, too many, too painful, too hard, too cruel, too worrying.

Ragdoll with Beloved Cat mode for me doesn't remove nor solve the causes of distress, though it removes me from them for a time.

Do you attend dietician educator meetings with him? It might be helpful to address this behavior of his with the educator ... because he is literally killing himself.

I have the best luck with my husband (who, admittedly, does not have diabetes) when I prepare his food for him, dole out small but healthy treats, and so on. I try to keep the overall tone light and affectionate, and if he gets mad at a restriction I uphold, it usually doesn't last long. Also remember that highs and lows of blood sugar can cause erratic emotions, behavior, and even cognitive clarity.

Anyway, tomorrow is a new day and I hope you sleep well tonight.

Sweet Pea hugs

Big, gentle dragon hugs for you, your husband, your aunt, and her husband.

They did the colonoscopy and discovered the bleeding was coming from colon polyps... They cut them out. But it's making me concerned because his father died of cancer and my husband can't remember if he had colon or prostate cancer... That crap does run in families.

Cancer treatment is a pretty good success story, not able to help everybody but the cure rates are way up. Hopefully the polyps were not cancerous but even if they were, this is treatable.

A really healthy diet is one thing you can do to prevent colon cancer. Lots of vegetables of various types, less fat and less processed meat (like bacon, lunch meat, etc.), and weight loss, are all things that can be good to do.

So maybe your husband can be motivated by this "scare" to pay attention to nutrition. Ask for some nutrition counseling.

I'm glad you have an answer anyway, and hope this all turns out OK. A family history is always a risk factor but not a promise. Take care.

Yeah, my husband's is overweight quite considerably and the diabetes and the high blood pressure and the high cholesterol... But I have all of those things to but to a lesser degree and my metformin and cholesterol meds I just let run out without going back to the doc to get refilled so I'm not taking care of myself either.

The old adage about "putting on your own oxygen mask first" is a wise one. If we don't take care of our own needs, we have less energy to offer others in theirs.

Take care. Get the rest you need. Reward yourself in safe ways for negotiating your husband and yourself through this crisis which may be the opening of a doorway, a turning point toward better times ahead. I hope that for you.