Husband's bipolar is ruining our lives

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I can't deal with my husband's bipolar interfering with our lives anymore. He is always asleep during the daytime, and is only awake when I go to bed. This has been going on for a year and a half, ever since he stopped taking Vyvanse. I have severe separation anxiety, and can't stand not being around him.

My in-laws don't give a s**t. They would rather pay attention to their attention-whore c**t daughter than give a s**t about their son's bipolar. They cater to that c**t 24/7 because her spouse is always on business and she has post-partum depression and two bastard children, and honestly, I couldn't give a s**t about the situation. They keep suggesting to use an alarm clock, which my husband is gonna sleep through anyway, so that won't work.

My husband was referred to a sleep study, but is holding off on it; he applied for Medicare/Medicaid, but we are not sure if he will qualify, especially since I have that insurance. I tried telling him about how I felt about this, and he is just as frustrated as I am, but said until his parents give a s**t and help out, that not much will be done.

He went to bed today at noon, and is still sleeping even as I write this. I can't handle spending another day alone, with no one to talk to except my mom who won't always be there for me because she is recovering from a stroke. I often wished he is back on the Vyvanse because it always helped with his sleep, but some a**hole doctor made him wean off, so now I am pissed.

In before "leave your husband". I also don't want to leave my husband, because he is almost all that I have, so don't tell me that.

I dont understand why he couldnt just go back on the medication he was before. What was wrong with it? Why did the doctor wean him off? He should go back on it if it helps him sleep at the proper time.

Could you try to sleep when he sleeps?
Or do you have daytime responsibilities?

@Sarah,
Honestly, I don't understand it either. Even though Vyvanse had its flaws, it still kept him on a regular schedule, but when he was at a psych ward last year, they took him off of it because they saw nothing positive about it.

@Raleigh,
I honestly wish my sleep was as f****d up as his so I could spend more time with him, but I have doctor and counselor appointments during some days.

I'm really sorry to hear what you are going through. I have Bipolar Disorder aswell and I know it's just as hard on the people around me as it is on me. It's not an easy thing for the sufferer or the sufferer's family to live with.

I can't offer any solid advice but I just want you to know I'm glad that you still love your husband and don't want to leave him. If he knew that too I bet it would be very comforting to him. When I was going manic before being diagnosed and I did very terrible things to people I was afraid that I had lost my loved ones forever and that they would always hate me and never forgive me, but they still loved me and they did everything they can to help me. Just knowing that helped me to do my best to learn to manage my condition. Maybe it can do the same for your husband?

Maybe you could try to get him on the meds he was before. Explain to the doctor that his sleep schedule is screwed up without it.

I had a partner who took Lexapro to control separation anxiety.

So we can't do anything much about Medicare/Medicaid because Trump had to be an a**hole and shut the government down. I don't know how f*****g long it will last, but I can't take it anymore. I actually considered not going to a friend's New Years Eve party because I am more concerned about my husband's well-being.

Sometimes I find it easier to give up than keep going, it's less effort.

Melatonin has already been tried numerous times, to the point where my husband developed a tolerance for it, which is why he doesn't take it as much anymore.

As far as discussing this with his doctor, I don't have her contact information, so I can't do that without discussing that with my husband. My in-laws said today that nothing could be done right now anyway, because Republican a**holes think Trump is doing the right thing shutting us down. Is there even a way to find out when this will end?

I started taking Vyvanse for ADHD back in the summer. It really helps keep me awake in the day. I used to nap a lot. I actually have energy to do more too. I’d say the doctors were wrong and it did help him. Would he be willing to go back on it?

We're trying to get him either on that or a similar med, because honestly, options are running out. He didn't think the Vyvanse was helping because it didn't help with his anger, but I see otherwise.

Vyvanse is a stimulant & psychs & docs don't like to give stimulants to bipolar people because it can make them more manic

I just thought that if he's on any medication it might be the meds that's making him stay up at night & sleep during the day. He should change the times he takes his meds. The meds he takes at night should be taken in the morning & the meds he takes in the morning should be taken at night.