Marknis wrote:
Jake6238 wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Gallia wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
My honest feeling is that you will be more likely to GET a relationship if you didn't THINK about wanting a relationship all the time. This is feeling borne out of my own experience.
agreed!
Agreed.
We seem to be forming a consensus.
Also agreed! Personally if I think of it the other way round, if a woman was hungry for a relationship but didn't focus at all on her own interests/passions, or physical/mental health, I'd be more likely to not engage. IMO, the richer a womans independent life the more attractive they are, it speaks a lot to their character.
I've actually had some women approach me but one of them told me she cut (She had scars on her arms) and the other was 16 at the time.
Speaking from experience, do not get involved with someone who is struggling with MH and self-harm. It isn't selfish, you're doing them a favor because often people will try to mask their own inner pain by entering into a relationship. But being in a relationship to distract from your own problems isn't a good foundation to build on.
When I say 'hungry for a relationship' what I mean is that if your every thought is occupied by wanting a relationship people can tell (with that weird NT sixth-sense). Obviously it's OK to approach people and to be approached.
As others have said, it's fine to not want a relationship.
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"I don't know half of you half as well as I should like, and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve." - Bilbo Baggins
Probably off challenging as many social norms in as little time as possible
09 Dec 2018, 3:41 pm
