Something happened to me here

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On a thread which is now locked, I complimented jimmy_m for being a very nice person (emphasis in the original). It was not jimmy's thread, but I think that's beside the point. My complimentary post was deleted.

The moderator warned me because he/she thought I was being sarcastic towards jimmy. I said no, I really think he is one of the most helpful and sincere people we have in the forums. I was moved to compliment him because he is more compassionate than I am, and I admired that. The moderator said "well why did you put it in italics, then?"

The whole thing has blown over, but I did want my compliment to be recorded here, and I also wanted to point out that as much as we autistics are often noticed for not seeing when someone is being sarcastic, it's also possible that we may see sarcasm that wasn't really there, or not really ever intended.

I am pointing this out because I think we could all benefit by being aware of this mistake. Most of us have been ridiculed and bullied many, many times, which I think might make us oversensitive so we perceive ill intent where none is intended.

And they took my Elizabeth Warren question down too!! !! Survey said “NO”.

Really?

What's this then: viewtopic.php?t=371413

Buc, they didn't delete your thread, they moved it to Adult Autism forum so innocent kids wouldn't be exposed to it.

Bea, all I can say is that you are not alone in being tried, convicted, and then sentenced by someone in authority based on his or her suspicions alone. Some members have left WP because someone suspected their motives and would not accept any claims to the contrary. Limiting my involvement in other people’s problems seems to be the only way that works for me.

Well, in part the problem is that I don't project a globally nicey-nice personality, and people extrapolate from that impression to a totally negative personality. I could avoid this by being nicey-nice all the time ... but then I'd hate myself.

Limiting my involvement in other people's problems is also effective for me. That means I try to butt out except when I can sincerely be complimentary and supportive.

But I'm an imperfect human (what - you, too?) and I don't always succeed. The devil made me do it!

soon there won't be any mods left to complain about.

There won't? Why not?

I joined this website believing that my “Dutch Uncle” personality would be the perfect complement to the poor, tortured souls here. Instead, I was rebuked and my account temporarily shut off because I went after people that I thought were trying to exploit those same members. Lately, a couple of people “suggested” that I lay off from replying to one particular member. Since then, even a moderator or two (and several other members) have played their own “Dutch Uncle” cards on that very same member, and no one has objected.

Ah, well ... us imperfect people seem to be welcome in fewer and fewer places ... eventually, only perfect people will be left, an then they will all have to solve their own problems all by themselves.

because we're running thin on mods, who are either on a break, or ill or have quit, and i'm here only to help them out till alex finally promotes new mods, as he promised. i'm tired, i have health issues, i can't do this any longer.

(I have a feeling that I’m going to regret this, but here goes...)

Boo, what can we do to help?

A reply I sent here got called disgusting and sarcastic when really I was being quite seriouse and was only trying to help. The OP said they reported it and my post got taken down. I was hurt.

Me too. On both counts....

You’re a good mod, Booyie. It’s a hard job. I don’t envy you.

I’d miss you if you went away.

Last edited by kraftiekortie on 15 Dec 2018, 4:50 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Welcome to the club.

“Trying to help” seems to be synonymous with “asking for heartbreak” around here.

I’m sorry you went through that. It can make you a better person, though. If you get involved knowing that you may get hurt, it seems to hurt less when it happens.

And it will happen.

I wasn’t trying to post an adult comment. Just something random.