Sister in law isn't talking to me

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WitchsCat
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19 Dec 2018, 2:51 pm

A few days ago, my husband got upset because his sister is receiving more attention from his parents than him. I took it upon myself to text her and call her an attention whore. Now she may have filed charges against me, and the only reason why they dropped was because I can't drive, and now I am not allowed to speak to her.

I am not a bad person, I just got upset because my husband was upset. I hate what this is doing to me. I bought presents for her that will probably be left unopened. I am already considering cancelling Christmas altogether because of it.

I f*****g hate living in Ohio, most everyone is a Trump whore, and due to my husband's probation, I am not allowed to leave this shitfest of a state. Meanwhile, one lucky member here has terminal cancer, why the f**k couldn't that be me!? After all, I did a bunch of bad things in my life, and now I am even more desperate to die. I just won't be happy until my sister-in-law forgives me, which is never.


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19 Dec 2018, 4:39 pm

When a person is stressed out they can act rashly. I've sent text messages I really regret myself. Don't cancel Christmas! it's one of the best events of the year. The sister-in-law may forgive you or she may not. Either way, in the long run you'll be okay, I think.

If the relationship never heals people who bear grudges over one argument are not worth knowing anyway. It's hard that this has happened right before Christmas. There's more family breakdown at Christmas than other times of year though, apparently. It's the pressure.

Try to enjoy your Christmas, whatever happens. It only comes once a year and it's an excuse to eat a lot and be silly.



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19 Dec 2018, 6:51 pm

I contacted my mom, and she agrees that this is toxic behavior. Her mother (also my MIL) had shown how toxic her behavior is, and passed it down to my SIL. The only family members I am still in contact with is my husband and his father. I asked my mom to take the presents I wrapped for them, so I won't have to worry about it.


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20 Dec 2018, 12:52 am

i'm glad you found a usable workaround.