I'm fed up with attention whores

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My mom and brother both like to suck all the attention out of the room everywhere we go and they never give me a chance to speak to anybody. They CONSTANTLY interrupt me when I try to talk and every single goddamn conversation ends up being all about them.

Like the other night when we went out to eat with my sister and her friends and after we left my mother got angry with me and told me that I was the one being rude. So basically me trying to join any conversation and get a word in edgewise while they are yapping away louder and louder like a bunch of howler monkeys who don't know how to breath is being rude?

I'm so f*****g fed with this BS I wish I could become mute or cut my tongue out or something, then I could just shut up around everybody and not feel like I have to talk at all.

And I swear to f*****g god the first person who tries to tell me that I'm the attention whore or that I should be lucky to have a family who treats me like this because they think their lives are so much worse than mine and I have no right to complain I'm leaving!

That's very frustrating.

You have my sympathy. I used to have a friend like that. We're not friends anymore, but it's different when it's your family.

Well, why don't you look at moving into someplace alone, away from these people?

It's often family members because they tend to stick to well used "scripts" that have been developed since you first began to talk. You have always been the quiet/loud/clever/stupid one (choose your own description). I actually believe there's not a lot you (one) can do about it... if you complain you're just perceived as being awkward. This still happens with me after 62 f****** years. My coping strategy is to keep quiet and zone out. Keep the important stuff for people who really matter to you and respect you for what you are.
In my case, I'm not a family person at all, so I rarely see them. That helps. If I had to live with any of them it would be very difficult.
Try reading the book, "They f**k you up".. by Oliver James, I think... at least it helps to understand what is going on in the family dynamic. The title of the book is taken from a brilliant poem by Philip Larkin.

That's so true about the well known script. My friend had known me since childhood. She said to me once, "you like being quiet though."

I was like, no, you just talk all the time

Sorry you're in that situation. That can indeed be frustrating.

Maybe go for a walk, or into the garden, and play with the dog / cat if there's one, as they can be better company than many humans.

Fortunately my folks aren't like that, but if I feel uncomfortable during a family gathering I retreat a bit to my room or just 'switch off" for a while.

Go out to eat alone.

I don't really understand how the disability benefits in my own country work either all I know is that in my case I have to have a payee because I've been declared by the government as incapable of managing my own money. The fact that I have bipolar disorder and have a bad habit of overspending money on junk I don't need means they're probably right.

I never want to go back to another group home though. I tried living in one before and they screw me over by putting me in a disgusting apartment that didn't even have a working shower. The lady in charge there also had it out for me and I had an annoying room mate who got angry if I used his microwave but he thought it was OK for him to eat my food that I paid for and to steal my stuff out the bathroom.

I think you should buy a horse and live in the woods. See how long that lasts.

My mother's an attention whore too, everything's about her and her problems.
Doesn't matter if you have terminal cancer, her bunions are much worse and you need to listen for ten hours while she goes on about them.
She talks louder than a jet plane taking off and if she doesn't get her own way she screams like a two-year old having a tantrum, I'm not exaggerating about the last one, you'll be in the middle of explaining why she's wrong and she'll just go off like a banshee to shut you up.
She also has a problem with nearly everyone in the family and will accuse them of slandering her while she spreads lies and gossip about them with anyone who'll listen.

So yeah, I commisserate with you Twiz.
Fortunately for me I don't live with her and I can block her from contacting me, which I've had to do to stay sane.
I'm actually very anxious she'll come around Christmas Day and cause trouble (it's the first time I haven't invited her for lunch ever)

I'm so, so sorry you have to put up with that rubbish from your family.