I want my 20's back

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My 20's ended on August 5th of this year and they were wasted. They should've been my best years but were instead the worst I've ever gone through. Instead of overcoming my struggles and finding my niche, I only had more failures and I still don't know who I am or what I am supposed to be. I missed even more milestones and my mind tells me there are no second chances. I wish I could have my 20's back so I could start over and actually live a happy and productive life but the time is past and I only have more failures to look forward to until my death.

Why should your twenties have been your best years? No decade is really better than another. Different, but no mandated best/ better years. In my twenties I had my only child which was wonderful. I also was divorced, had cancer and lost my ability to have more children. I had to flee my home town, family and friends to leave the abusive marriage. I had to leave my child with family while I sorted myself out again. My thirties saw me moving from one side of the country and back again. Forties and fifties lots of physical changes. (Somehow losing an inch of height to osteoporosis seemed more traumatic than cancer! Weird.)

I’m in my sixties now. I have a very good marriage and a new unexpected career. I have chronic pain. I’ve been diagnosed with ASD & ADHD. Life is a mix. There is no set route or pattern. Relax. Be open to unexpected chances and dreams.

My 20's pretty well sucked, too. I was stabbed in the head on the subway, and I was mugged after I took a girl home. Amongst other things.....

It took me a minute and a half to read this thread.

I WANT MY 90 SECONDS BACK!

R.I.P. Marknis' 20's.
August 5, 2008 - August 5, 2018.

We hardly knew ye.

Unless you have a time machine, you can't have your twenties back

Nobody on the internet can give you your twenties back

And I want to be a skinny smart handsome healthy extroverted cisgender neurotypical white male civil engineer



No blue genie or magician , rightly or wrongly, even claims to know how to do that

Not even Penn and Teller

My twenties could have been worse. Financial, medical, social, legal problems

My twenties could have been better

But I do not "want my twenties back". That is neither possible nor happening

If it were an option, I would not want it, because it could have been worse

" I still don't know who I am or what I am supposed to be. "

What makes you think they will turn out any better if you did get a second chance?

Don't be saying the same thing about your 30s when you hit 40.

Put more energy worrying about the present and less energy worrying about the past

You can't change the past

I want my $20s back too. Imagine how much money I'd have by now if I never spent them?

serious

plenty of people, especially chinese, appear to eat much more than me, and they are much skinnier.

plenty of students, appear to have wasted less time/energy studying, and did better at school than me.

introversion is not morally wrong, a choice, or inherently bad. but almost all jobs are aimed at extroverts. exception: science, engineering, technology, trades. jobs that i qualify for, usually have "outgoing" in the job description.

neurotypical: requires no explanation.

cisgender: homophobia

white male: racism, sexism

civil engineer: while i do not know enough about civil engineering to be good at it, or like it, or know what the challenges are, whatever it is, has to be better than flipping burgers.

Mark, do not let your failures define who you are. If you allow such factors like low self-esteem control you, such factors will make you feel worse and you must not let this happen.