I need some guidance from people,

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who used to / still live in the streets.
The thing is, I just can't cope with this life anymore. I was diagnosed 15 years ago, when I was in my mid-20s, meaning I haven't received any help for all my childhood, even though everyone always knew there's something different about me. I got a university degree and tried to find a job with people that would appreciate me, but have found myself time and again working with people who saw only the negative things in my personality. Now I've been unemployed for several months and it doesn't seem things will get better. I live with my parents now, but they hate me (always hated) and get angry when I say I want to give up. Besides, they don't get any younger, and I don't know how much longer I'll be able to live with them. I'm also not sure if any of my siblings / cousins will allow me to live with them, since they all have their own lives and families, and most of them hate me, too.

Therefore, I started thinking about leaving their home, and living in the streets for the rest of my life. By my calculations, the money I have saved will be enough for food and other essentials for a few years, and after that, I'll see what to do. So I want to know if there are some people here who have tried that, and can give me some suggestions about what I need and how to survive. I don't want to apply for disabled accommodations, because the services are awful where I live.

Please don't judge me, I just got rejections from 2 companies I've invested a lot of time and effort in trying to get a job at, and now I'm totally broken. I'm so tired of this life and its requirements, and now I just want to go to sleep for a very long time...

Don't live in the streets----it's tougher than you think.

I can understand your need for escape.

We have one person here who used to be long-term homeless, and is now living in an apartment complex. He has written a few books about what it means to be homeless.

And another who has been homeless for at least 20 years, and is not doing too well health-wise right now.

Have you got any sort of diagnosis?

Jobs are hard to come by for anybody, no matter what people say about the economy being "good."

Please talk to us, while re-thinking your decision to "live in the streets."

You're trying to dig your self out of a hole. You're homelessness will only make life a LOT harder and possibly a LOT shorter.

i had had some exposure to not having a shelter in my youth. not as bad as some other ppl here. but it is a terror. really, dont even f*****g think about it. think how to get a decent living arrangement for urself.

You will get raped if you live on the streets. Thats why so many homeless women pretend to be men. You will become sick. You will feel gross. Maybe it wouldnt be so bad if you lived in your car and showerd at a gym. Without money you could go to a soup kitchen. Any of those where you live? When I was homeless I shacked up with abusive men because I thought it was the only way to get food and shelter. Luckly the services where I live arent bad for people on disability so I was able to get a place. Couldnt you use the money you have saved up to move somewhere they could help you better? I would rather live with parents that hate me than on the streets.

What is your degree in? Is there any way you could find a position working telephonically? For people who have difficulty with others, this is fantastic, not having to deal with office politics or the general public.

Anyway, I'm with the others. Being homeless is probably not the way to go.

You could try to get on SSI or SSDI...it can be a little difficult to get it for non-physical disabilities but you can, I was able to. If you really are finding yourself unable to hold a job or keep any employment then it may be the right way to go. It can be a lengthy process though, you may very well get denied when you apply...when that happens make an appeal and get a disability lawyer. Sounds like aside from just having aspergers, you likely also have depression if you're feeling like giving up a lot.

Also if you do get on disability you can apply for subsidized housing..but in the meantime you'd have money so if you need to pay a portion of rent to stay with like a family member or room-mate you would be able to.

I would certainly try that before risking the streets.

I chose to be homeless when I felt I couldn't work anymore and the exercise I got from walking everywhere and spending a lot of time outdoors was great. Other than that it was a nightmare. After a year I started asking for help and a year later I got into subsidized housing. The cost was great and still in recovery 10 years later from that trauma. There is a lot of violence in that world.

There might be another solution to your housing problem that isn't so black & white all or nothing. Making the transition to living independently or with assistance is possible if you choose that way.

Thanks for the plug, KK.



https://www.amazon.com/You-Cant-Sleep-H ... 1-fkmrnull

redrobin62

nice work on the book(s) & reading your bloge.

^ Thanks. I appreciate that.

Thank you for your replies. Is it really so terrible? I don't have a car, I want to use a sleeping bag, and zip it all over me. I don't look feminine anyway, so I have no problem pretending to be a man. I'll check the mentioned book. Thanks again.

Since you don't have a car, it's best to begin looking for a shelter. There are mixed shelters as well as for men and women only. Here's a good, fairly comprehensive place to start looking.

https://www.shelterlistings.org/

Yes, it's terrible being homeless.

People often have a romanticized vision of the "freedom" of homelessness. In reality, being homeless means you have LESS freedom. And you're in constant danger from people who want to do ill to others. Criminals (whether homeless or not).

It's a hard life. If you want to pee, there's no bathroom for you. If you want to poo, there's no bathroom for you. You're forced to go in the street; that, alone, gets you a summons.

Then, if you sleep anywhere, the cops will rouse you up and tell you to "move on." It's hard for a homeless to get a good night's (or a good day's) sleep.

Not to mention, as a woman if you still menstruate, there's a very real problem with homeless women and the ability to obtain hygiene products and to keep themselves reasonably clean.

Look... it's not a good idea. It's much better if you find some way to find even a job that is outside of your field of study and rent a small apartment or a studio, or even have a roommate that you never see, but for god's sake DON'T go live out in the street thinking it's going to be easier because it's not.

OP: I'm curious to know what problems will be solved by your homelessness? I've been homeless (briefly) and I wouldn't wish it on my own worst enemy. It makes EVERYTHING harder. Eating, bathing, laundry, sleeping, everything.