They say its not me but it really is me

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I recently got in trouble because I sent a rude remark to my fellow classmate who went MIA in our group project. My teacher wasn't upset at me because she said: "I know it wasn't you" "it was just frustration" and my school counselor told me "this isn't you" but the thing is that really is me. I calmed down over the years but if it wasn't for my Aspergers, I would have thrown punches at a lot of people in the past and I would have walked out of class a lot. At home, when I am angry everyone knows it. There were talks from my parents of sending me to anger management when I was in elementary because the smallest thing would get me mad. Of course, I made this thread because when my teacher and counselor told me this, I got upset haha. This is one of the few things about me having Aspergers. It kept from being put in a lot of difficult situations from my angry. A few years ago, I can't remember a day where I wasn't upset at something or someone.

Did you tell it to your counsellor?
Anger is a valid emotion, it can be managed but it mustn't be denied!

anger is much faster to come when u are unhappy, when ur stimulus regulation is off, when there is a perpetual stress in ur life. yes, ofc, there are personal traits, and different people express their anger differently. i find myself much less prone for explosive reactions once i get enough validation, acceptance and affection coming my way. and i saw same changes in other people i am on this journey with. something is causing u pain. they all are correct, its not just u. its life, that needs tuning. maybe i can help u figure it out?

In my opinion, it's good that you were able to not make rash and impulsive decisions that would have gotten you in trouble.

Anger is a valid emotion----yes.

But, in the vast majority of cases, it's not good to act on it immediately. It's much better to channel it towards more productive ends than merely "acting out." It's much better to think about what happened before you act upon your anger. Think of the pros and cons of expressing your anger. Think about a more productive way of expressing your anger than "acting out."

I would say you should have said to the "MIA" person: "You should have been here for the project; we need every person to participate," or something along those lines.

I know I don't respond to hostile messages from anybody.