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I read that you can get surgery for fecal incontinence. There are a couple different types of surgeries depending on what you need. They sound scary and painful. Also people gossip about how our hospital kills people. By accident I hope. But I would rather get it done in the city if I could, in a better hospital. I would have to get help with this. Might be in a group home by then. I might want surgery in the future if my condition gets worse. Which it most likely will as I age. But the thought of such a surgery scares me a lot. And how would I s**t after it?

Question. Will they knock you out to do an operation? If so, there's nothing to worry about. I had to have four teeth removed and I was so nurvous and sceared. Yet I hardly even felt the needle go into my arm and I woke up. Job done!

What have they said is the cause of your fecal incontinence?

My mother had it for a while because of her Crohn's colitis (yes, there is such a thing).

I haven’t got it checked out yet. I think it might be nerve damage from breathing wrong for five years. My muscles aren’t strong enough to hold it in. But that doesn’t make any sense to me. But anyway it started after breathing wrong for so long. It might not be nerve damage, it could be something else. I don’t feel like dealing with it yet. But I will when this problem gets worse. And it will. If the surgery could cure me I would be very pleased. It’s just the recovery part that scares me. I’m scared it will be painful and I don’t know how I’d go to the bathroom afterwards. It didn’t say anything about it in the articles I’ve read.

Consult with a doctor. First, you go to a GP.

Look into Pelvic Floor Rehabilitation to avoid surgery. It's done with physiotherapists.

Anything to avoid surgery....if it can be done without surgery, do it!

Um, yeah. It would have to get pretty bad to need surgery. I was talking about this with my doctor and he didn’t recommend surgery. I dont know, maybe when I’m old and this problem gets worse. I need to learn more about it. I would probably need to take pain medication. Which makes you constipated. So then I would need to take a laxative. The thought really scares me. I don’t know what’s worse, constantly sh*****g yourself or going through rectal surgery.

To be honest, I would say you should seek to stop the incontinence.

Put yourself on a "waiting list" for treatment.

Sounds like a wonderful thing but I doubt I could afford it being on disability.

Canada is a place that has free health care.

Look it up. Or ask a GP. Maybe it's free under the health service. Maybe put yourself on a waiting list for it---after consulting with a GP?

Check around. Some physio clinics offer reduced rates for seniors and people on disability. You might also find there is an Incontinence Education program through your local hospital (check with your GP or Gastro).

This is a case, Sarah, where you really should advocate for yourself.

This is something you want to get rid of.

Here's a website you could check out:

https://www.womenshealthcpa.com

Thanks Kraftie

Getting surgery itself was not an unpleasant experience for me. They give you stuff to keep things from being scary right from the start. Waking up and being taken home is fine.

All of that was borderline pleasant for me. It's the next few days after that are more difficult because of pain. I learned that the body makes you feel sore on purpose so that you move much less so you can heal. It reacts the same way as if you had been wounded rather than worked on and stitched up. The stitches dissolve over time.

Despite the discomforts I went through for a while, the results were well worth it. I'm happy I had it done.