Why am attracted to creeps?

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Sarahsmith
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09 Aug 2019, 7:40 pm

Tonight a guy I met on a dating site messaged me wanting to know if I wanted to get high with him in the woods. Since I dont really know him, I said no. Im a little shocked that thats the first thing he would want us to do, upon meeting. I hope he never tries to get sex out of me. Part of me wishes I had said yes, because now Im sitting at home on a friday night, with nothing to do. Anyone else having a boring friday? Also I think I would turn beet red if I ever met him in public, because Im so shy. Whats with the rushing into things. Why doesnt he just want to hang out sober?



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10 Aug 2019, 12:00 am

I think the only part weird is the woods part. Is meeting up and smoking weed really that shocking? I thought you said everyone in your town smoked and drank.


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10 Aug 2019, 1:07 am

Sarahsmith wrote:
Tonight a guy I met on a dating site messaged me wanting to know if I wanted to get high with him in the woods. Since I dont really know him, I said no. Im a little shocked that thats the first thing he would want us to do, upon meeting. I hope he never tries to get sex out of me. Part of me wishes I had said yes, because now Im sitting at home on a friday night, with nothing to do. Anyone else having a boring friday? Also I think I would turn beet red if I ever met him in public, because Im so shy. Whats with the rushing into things. Why doesnt he just want to hang out sober?


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In this case, discretion was definitely the better part of valor.

I'm male and have been around the block a few times, and I still would want a first meeting to be at the coffee shop of my choice. That would creep me out as well, and I happen to like the woods at night.

Back when I was a kid, we would have said "Danger, Will Robinson!". I suspect that 'getting high in the woods' was a scenario devised to obtain sex. If it wasn't, it might have ended up that way anyway.

The key parts of the scenario: Stranger, secluded location, darkness, lowering of inhibitions. To be avoided. Just my humble opinion.

Find someone you have more in common with who doesn't creep you out.



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10 Aug 2019, 8:38 am

Noca wrote:
I think the only part weird is the woods part. Is meeting up and smoking weed really that shocking? I thought you said everyone in your town smoked and drank.


I get really messed up when I smoke pot. Im sensitive to it or something. So doing it with someone I dont really no spells danger for me. If I was a teenager I would have jumped at the chance though.



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10 Aug 2019, 11:23 am

I’m really glad you didn’t go out in the woods with the guy. Err on the side of caution.

It might not have come out bad—but the “bad possibilities” are numerous.



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10 Aug 2019, 6:04 pm

I’m pretty open to doing crazy things on first dates, but that’s another level of red flags. That’s like a bunch of flashing neon red flags.


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10 Aug 2019, 8:18 pm

If you don't know why you are attracted to someone, strangers on the internet, also don't know why. You are attracted to someone



Rhetorical question