Im feeling lonely

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Because im very lonely and i have nobody that cares about me.

I dont go out of home, i dont have friends, job or education. These are enough for being a loser but my situation is worse. I have social anxiety, depression and i have aspergers syndrome. I started going to psychiatrist and therapist but it doesnt actually cure me.

I dont know what to do, everyone is happy and im the only person who is always depressed. Everyone can achieve something, everyone has a life but im stuck at home. Its annoying. What would you do if you were me?

I would pursue my interests, what I like to do.

Try to get out of the house and take walks,

Don’t compare yourself to others.

Social anxiety and agoraphobia can be very disabling, especially if you are also on the spectrum. I know how hard it can be to leave the house when you feel overly self-conscious or vulnerable. I prefer to go outside at night, when it's dark. I take my dog so I'm safe, and I get used to the feeling of being outside. I also have oversized sunglasses so that if I'm out in the day I don't feel obliged to make eye contact with anyone. Some people like to wear earbuds and listen to music to calm their nerves, but I don't do that myself.

The other part of your question about making social connections is more difficult, unfortunately. I just wanted to say that I hear you, I have empathy, and you aren't alone. If you like dogs, they can really help to bridge that gap between indoor / outdoor lifestyles, they can help you feel secure, and they can help to start conversations if you so choose (e.g., at the dog park or with other dog lovers).

Writing on WP is also helpful when you just want to connect with someone who understands.

Yep. You can make friends here.

What makes you really happy? Trains?
Algorithms? Philosophy? Girls?

Autistic people and animals tend to get along really well.

I agree! After horseback riding yesterday I realise how much I miss horses. I may need to look into keeping / leasing one, or at least going for weekly rides. I feel like I got my groove on again! Dogs are perfect companions, and many of us love cats or just about any type of pet.

Animals seem to provide meaningful opportunities for non-verbal communication and empathy.

Sorry for changing the topic, OP.

I can help if it is trains...

Maybe you could find a nice restaurant or coffee shop to frequent. You might meet someone there if you go enough. You could take up going for walks to get some excercise. Visit a library with free wifi. Ive never met anyone at a library yet. But its comforting to have other people around in a quiet place.

And when you feel lonely remember we are here... (((Hugs if you don't mind a hug))).

not everyone has friends, job, or an education

not everyone is "happy"

especially on wrong planet

please read more posts

Also why not post more posts, as just by sharing you get your feelings out into the open (Which is a good thing as it gives release) and it may also help others who may be going through the same issues that you face.

I didnt step out of house for a week.

I cant be confident like other people. And my problems are permanent. I couldnt cure social anxiety or anything despite medications for long time. If everything stays the same i will die as a lonely and homeless person

Do you have a friend, or a friend of the family who visits? People why you are happy and relaxed with?

Would internet gaming sites be fun? Just keep to games which you can type things while you play?

What Mr. Kortie said: Nostra nos sine comparatione delectent.

Pursue your interests.

Return to education.

Force yourself to leave home.

Learn new skills.

Improve your diet.

Get some exercise.

Get sunlight.

Take up religion/meditation/spiritualism/etc.

I dont have any friends or anyone except family. Sometimes neighbours come to home but im not familiar with anyone.

I have zero confidence its annoying, im staying in my room all day. Being 21 years old and a depressed homebound immature person is annoying.

I went to psychiatrist yesterday and she prescribed new medications but i know it wont work. Im the only one who is stuck in this loop and cant make any progress.

It helps where I live because all around here are fields with only a few neighbours.