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To be honest my life is pretty much ok except when I over analyse it which I have a tendency to do.

When I come on here I overanalyse and then other people pick up on my bad mood and try to help, generally generalising about things from their own lives.

Yes, I don't have friends the way my mum does. My friends express friendship in a different way. But maybe the answer deep down is - don't rely on any one source, get pleasure where you can, don't expect anyone to come out and say 'you're my friend' rather than just being friendly.

Yes, I don't have a job. But I have fulfilling ways to spend my time.

Yes, I don't win popularity contests online. So what?

Yes, I have a different way of thinking to how most people think. But that isn't everything.

Yes, some people disagree with me but most of them aren't actually around me irl.

So idk if I'm going to take a break or cut back or what but this is just a general, rather public, note to self to quit over analysing and over stressing every little detail and just enjoy things/take things at face value as positive.

Didn't get all of that but what are you struggeling most with?
Sometimes we need just a different view on the things only ...

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Yeah its sucks to overanalyse. It can drive you crazy. Ive read meditation helps with that. Perhaps mindfullness.

Analysis is fine as long as it leads to positive outcome not negative.

Before I got ill I focused most of my analysis externally. That was useful.

Social anxiety is bad and leads to negative over analysis. Leads to me thinking 'is my friend my friend, they haven't said they're my friend and they drink with me but they don't go into long philosophical conversations with me' 'am I worth anything, I've been on Twitter a week and nobody is following me aagh!'

My autism alone never did that, it's since I've become ill.

Before I was ill I would analyse the world like that, I wouldn't become so introspective and focus on self alone. My external life is fine, it's just mental health side of life.

there is an old saying, "there's a time for Proust, and a time to skip it." analysis can only take one so far. as Joan Baez said, "ACTION is the antidote to despair."

KT67,

I have the "paralysis by analysis" syndrome myself. I have a good life, but it really stresses me out when I get in that mode.