There are a lot of causes of hatred, as Fnord has pointed out. My guess, just off the wall, is that people do not hate you (nor SarahSmith.) Hate is a fevered, angry, irrational, almost primitive brain emotion. Any given person is unlikely to elicit that level of intensity of an emotion.
Fnord, I don't think people hate you either. I think people are annoyed, but that is different from hate.
Mostly we aspies feel left out because we are different and different is difficult for NTs to process. So we get ignored or uninvited.
In my life, I have had the most success when I can find a role in which I can be helpful to others.
If you think there is nothing you can do to help someone else, please consider the numerous people living in nursing homes. If you can just come and listen. Or come and hold a hand. That brings joy to so many people who are without humane contact. And research has shown (don't make me find it) that even a short visit results in a higher feeling of contentment for up to 24 hours. Even if the person has, for example, Alzheimers, and doesn't even remember that you came
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