I feel so guilty

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I feel sad and lost... and I feel so guilty about it.

I have so much... so many people would hate or envy me over it and a much younger version of me would think I'm in heaven.

That's the problem, I just hit a rough patch and it's the good old depression catching up with me - I know I'll get over it, I have no doubt I'll deal with the wounds and the past and the change, I always do. But I need time, I need to accept and feel my sadness and fear and sorrow and while I'm doing it someone is already doing so much for me and I have so much to be grateful for, yet I can't shake off the lingering melancholy, grief and loss long gone ...

And I barely got about 24 hours of sleep this week, I'm either tired to the bone or hyperactive.

And I feel so f*****g guilty about it all.

This is my second thread in the Haven in 7 years and I already feel embarrassed and (guess what) guilty about it. I shouldn't' even be here, this a place for people with real problems.

Don't feel guilty.

Things sometimes happen in life which we can't handle. We may be missing conclusions. We may be stuck. Time does heal the past. Maybe something new to look forward to may help?

I know about feeling down b/c I feel down (or rather b/c I don't want to feel it). It's good when hard feelings pass and stay past... eventually. I had significant hardship a while ago and even when it was past, I had a hard time clearing it. Oddly it was a boss who said something that gave me "permission" to take the time (years!) to get past it. And now I'm a bit stuck in a situation, but it's milder. Still, looking to be gentle with myself as I make my way *slowly* through, past it.

When guilt strikes, I tell myself: worse than some, better than some - to banish guilt. As you have heard: express and release. Alternatively take action or let it go. etc. etc. You got this. Be kind to yourself.

I just saw this. I'm sending you empathy and understanding, along with my hugs. Like you, I'm not a thread starter ... so I can imagine how you must be feeling. Feel free to use all of the spoons from my burnout thread in April, when I felt the same and you were very supportive of me. It's OK to feel melancholy and to need processing time when unwanted emotions strike. Please feel confident that you have a league of friends here, and that 'this too shall pass'.

Hugs to Dexter, too!

Was there a particular event which bought on the depression?

I feel this exact way sometimes, I definitely get it. <3

Guilt is an extra burden depression piles on us.We shouldn’t feel it because it’s not our fault we get down, it’s an illness.But we do anyway, what an awful cycle.
I always felt like the depression was like being caught in an undertow.Hold your breath long enough and you pop back up to the surface.
Hope you feel more cheerful soon.

Thank you for your support, means a lot.

I'm barely verbal right now, will come back and answer in a couple of days.

Yep. You’re a smart and wise person. I believe in you.

I'm thinking of you, Bender.

Breathe, relax, stim, and be kind to yourself. Don't worry about being verbal or explaining yourself. Just rest.

I just saw this. I am sorry you are feeling down and then feeling guilty about it. As other posters have said, I hope you feel better soon and can get rid of the guilt.

If it makes you feel any better (and if it doesn't, just disregard), learning to accept help from others without feeling guilt, is another developmental stage adults benefit from attempting to achieve.