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My job right now is hands down the best one I've ever had, with the exception of the 1 year limit on my contract as an intern. My coworkers are nice & as a result of some steady work, I've been able to live with my friends lately. I'm worried it's all a house of cards. Years of studying have little to do with my chances of permanent employment, it's all a matter of business sense, which of course has no regards for my life whatsoever.

I worry about my friends & I can barely find any time to see them now, but that's the only reason I can afford to keep up with anyone.

Wow, I seriously need some coffee right now.

Is there nobody you can go to to make a case for staying on?

Many times when you enter a career, many jobs require something called EXPERIENCE.
So every time you work in a career you build up your credentials that can help you find your next job. It also allows you to network, rub shoulder with other companies or individuals that can open doors for future job offers.

Yep....you have to gain that experience....

And I'm sure you'll do it.

I loved temping in my 20s. Near 30 I went from contractor to full-time employee. It wasn't a plan; it just happened That's fairly common around town. 20 years later I am having significant difficulties and about done with this company. It was a good run. I am thinking about contracting (temping) again, or finding another company.

Surprisingly to me a letter of recommendation said I had business sense. LOL. (Like you, I would have said not.)

BTW - I'm down the road from you just past Broomfield.

I am glad it's going well. Wishing you next go someplace great! (and completely understand your angst, right there with you in part)

I have 7+ years of software consulting experience doing many various things. I've specialized more for the past several years in geographic information systems & 3D graphics whatnot.

Well I've been doing that *job search* for a month or so now, I've got decent chances that I looked into enough jobs to be OK but I still have no idea what's going on. Just interviews.

It's more that I'm worried that my demanding work life is too much for me to have much of any social life.

I'm actually in Broomfield now.

Do you interview well? I don't... yet. I'd give myself a 4/10. I've known that since I was a teen: I got theatre roles and work from knowing someone.

My job search has been slow b/c I don't want a new job so much as I want new management. I have done two interviews, which were uncomfortable. I am hesitate to apply for more jobs until I have smoothed that out, or else I would need an understanding audience. And yet, I spend my time working hard on my current job, working hard at caring for my young children, and -recently- exploring ASD. Who has time to script an interview?

I figure the job search is in part a numbers game, for anyone and even more so for those of us outside the box. I need to be proud of my strengths, but I am still skittish for my differences (my current management is exploiting this).

There are tons of opportunity in the Denver/Boulder area. Wishing we find something great!

I actually do pretty well in interviews, I'm just more concerned about their necessity in the first place.

At least I'm going to a friend's party later apparently. I also just applied to a post-internship IT career development rotation program in my office. The confirmation email just told me to ask HR about interviewing. I also have 1-3 geospatial engineering job interviews in September.

Part of the problem here is that I've figured out how to bank on stress more than anything or anyone else, I can really put myself through a lot in the name of getting work done. Lately it's really dented my energy for office hours but I've been getting everything done anyway. I get that being self-reliant is good but I can take it to unhealthy extremes. I want to be more in touch with my friends every day.

How about you send me some of your natural (or made) interview skills and I'll send you some of my natural (or made) work-life balance skills?

I'd say the rotation program (for IT) sounds very similar to what my company does (for sales/engineering). Neat! Well, if you get that, you stay - and this post ends.

A decade ago, I read an article that said to make a good impression, come in before the boss and leave after the boss ---I told my then-boss that it wasn't going to happen. He worked soooooo many hours. (He later self-diagnosed as Aspie.) I enjoy my job, but it's not my life passion.

I joke that my company made me mediocre. I was such the over achiever, but it wasn't being rewarded. In fact, I was often told to "do less" (by my standards). Life is funny.

I'll have to get back to you later in more detail (I should sleep more) but I should also just say I wish I had the energy for more of this professional stuff. It's a bigger impact on my physical health than I'm comfortable with.

I used to be able to cope with lots of stress but now I can't. This is why I am having some pretty limiting issues in life. I think it has come after years of burnout have caught up with me.

At one time I was so good at masking with confidence (Inwardly I was the opposite ), that if I went to a job interview that I really wanted (Rare, as most jobs I only partly wanted), I could almost walk out with a guarantee of getting it even though there would be a few thousand applicants. As long as I could get to the interview...
At other times when the nurves got to me and I couldn't mask, no way would I get the job.
These days the last three temporary part time jobs I have had have not needed interviews, as I have been re-employed at the same company, which is good as the way I am feeling now, there is no way I could cope with a job interview. I would actually need to bring my Mum in which would not look good! It is why I can't sign on for benefits the last few years when I have been off work, as I can't face the interview, or worst still, the lengthy telephone interviews which I fall to pieces in... At least a one to one is easier, but still...
Just to see a doctor these days and I have to take my Mum in. Embarissing, but if i didn't my mind goes blank with the nurves. Mind you, I have always had difficulty expressing feelings to doctors when they ask awkward questions about how I feel... I would be fine if not asked questions like "Do you feel stressed?" or "Are you anxious?" I sit there unable to answer... And usually say "No" as my mind blank comes in if I try to say "Yes".

Sorry. I am writing an essay instead of a single sentence reply.

I hope all goes well for you. I hope you have security in your work. Is hard to say but try not to be concerned. Oh gosh, I so envy happy go lucky people! We all need a bit of that in life! So much easier if we could laugh off our insecurities! We could do with that.
Anyway. All I can say is enjoy and try not to think about things. If they happen, they happen. If they don't they don't.

By this point I probably have enough options lined up for something to work out, but that's only a matter of employment. I'm completely lost socially these days, there isn't much I can do about being distanced from everyone by my different relationship with technology.

I find I can be outwardly social, but inwardly I am not if that makes sense to anyone? In other words, I can feel lonely even though I can be in a group of people. It is hard to inwardly connect, yet I can talk and talk and talk. My Mum... Haha! She is funny. A neighbour who... Well, she is a brain surgeon. I don't see her or her husbant to speak to that often ut I started chatting. You know when you (If you are like me) happen to need to say a whole chapter when other people would come straight to the point and buy the time I would reach the point the conversation would have already habe ended, or I would have forgotton the point I wanted to make and have gone off on a tangent that even I disn't know where it would end up! Well, I had carried on like that and my Mum had to stop me and say "You're supposed to ask something that the other person aants to talk about". Fair point, but I find I can't seem to know what to say if I try to do that? I think I can end up boring people, but there again, not everyone likes trains I guess! Haha!