Thought I finally had a chance

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Until recently, I had really never had a chance to have a boyfriend and I happened to like this one man who is the roommate of another friend of mine. We had not really talked to each other in person that said, he recently messaged me online and expressed interest in me. I thought perhaps my friend was trying to set us up. Sadly, I looked on Facebook and I saw that he is going on a date with another good friend of his. When I saw that today, I felt crushed because I would have liked to have gone out with him.

In what way did he show interest? Maybe he’s dating multiple people and hasn’t picked one yet. Do you know how long they’ve been going out? Not to get your hopes up it’s just you never know. There’s other fish in the sea though. Don’t give up.

Aww. Hugs... (((Summer Twilight))).

I liked him first and I told his roommate that and he did message me on a few times and ask if I was going to be at a party but I could not make it. Then at some point, I never heard from him again. Then today, I saw a picture of him and this other girl on a date and he mentioned how happy he was with her. He posted on there that they have known each other for a while and that he is in a new relationship with her.

This seems to happen to me just about every time with someone of the opposite sex where they seem interested but then another woman comes along and then I get forgotten about.

Don't worry. Your time will come.

This seems to happen to me just about every time I met someone and before I know it, that person seems to look at another woman over me. The thing is, I took a break for a while because this keeps happening to me so I focused on other things rather than getting hurt. The only men who seem to pay attention to me or seem to be persistent are the creeps and I am tired of it.

I posted my lament on facebook about how I am upset that I am overlooked and that I am tired of being a creep magnet instead. He messaged me and asked if I am sad about it but I really didn't say too much to him.

Just a thought. What do you mean by creeps? Are these men who are too forward?

(((SummerTwilight)))

I have a similar problem. It seems the guys who express interest in me want something inappropriate. I would like to find a nice man someday.

Creepy men who seem to
1. They seem to move too fast - I have a neighbor who asked me years ago what I liked to do date-wise a
2. They ask questions like "Hey pretty girl, what's your name?"
3. Others won't take no for an answer with me

Yeah I get hit on by old men a lot but not so much men my own age. I am also a creep magnet.

I am pretty much over the shock now and I have come to my senses

1. This man, who is on the spectrum himself, didn't really know me and vice versa. He roommate, who is a friend of mine attempted to set us up because he knew I liked him. Whereas, it sounds like he has known his new girlfriend for a long time.
2.We never really talked before this, but we had seen each other
3. He is a very nice guy and has some great qualities
4.One of my colleagues said that part of the dating game is rejection or "Every no gets you closer to a 'Yes'."

You should try to talk to people you are interested in. And not wait for them to make the first move.

Next time I will reach out more and ask how this person is doing

Is good advice. I find I don't do the asking as I am a man, and in the UK men are no longer allowed to ask according to what the BBC has said. Mind you, the BBC are always making things up, so I don't know where I stand as a man in this respect. I just avoid asking a woman for a date just incase I break the law. The only problem to this is unless I am online so there is a barrier between me and a woman, I tend to avoid talking to women my age or younger unless I know they are already married so I am safe. I maybe over reacting a bit. Who knows.
Online is so much easier. Things get out of hand, I just avoid the internet. Problem solved!

BBC dictating the UK with Fake News? (Off topic)

Anyway, I should have kept on talking to this guy and arranged going out for coffee on such an such date

Wait for the next guy to come along that you know is single and quick. Grab him!
One thing for you guys and gals in the USA. You ard not short of people. Theredore, tnere could be thousands of potential partners out there to find. You only need one.