I feel everyone has already achieved their goals and dreams

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I feel everyone else but me went to university after leaving school at 16, 17 or 18, studied at university until 22 or 23 and already achieved their dream career and goals by 25 and think that everyone has followed that pattern but me, I left school at 18 and went to college until 20 and didn't go to university until 22 and still haven't achieved a career or something. I seem to have this ridiculous envy towards those people I mentioned and think they are better than me especially when I see it on social media, like graduation photos and so on. It makes me still feel like a failure and an underachiever.

Through sheer hard work, I have been there and done that in a way, but then I reached a point where life threw everything at me and I left the job, had no income so sold the house to pay back the mortgage so I could limit the bills, moved back in with my Mum... Then many died.. Dad, Grandmother, both aunts.. Both uncles (Other grandparents had already passed away... Hit 43 funerals in just a few years of family and friends... )
I had so much in life thrown at me even that maybe it has uncovered autistic traits which in the past I had ignored? No idea if I am on the spectrum though.
I also saw miricles from God happen which prevented me from crashing into debt...

But what I am trying to say to sum up... The more we have and own the more there is to look after. The more time and effort or worry there is to tend to such things on top of trying to earn enough to keep everything functioning. Yes, I was hitting many shutdowns which also I had my sleeping patterns hit... And it all accumilated... And at one time I had a girlfriend who I almost married though we never lived together as I was saving that to marriage. Long story!

But though I didn't make the high life, to me in my own way I did. And life may look hopeful and rosey but the higher one goes the more fragile life becomes and the more effort needed to stay there.

We need no more then try to be happy in life. If you can achieve that, you need no more.

I never even went to university, and I only went to college for a year (or rather 9 months), and got a BTEC. I used to get jealous of people my age with high-paying careers but now that I'm in a job that I love, I don't feel so jealous - even though my job is a menial job.

I feel the same way. It seems like my peers have more choices, while I’m stuck in skid row. I want a better life!

Not everyone has their dreams by 25.

You are a sensible blessed individual. So few people find a job they love like this without them wanting to promote themselves further up the ladder... And I am not knocking those go getters as who would do those jobs, but to find contemptment in what you do is just ace! Well done to you!

I haven’t realized my dreams.

Truthfully, not many do realize their dreams. Most people just do the best they can.

You are not them, and they are not you. What works for them, works for them, and not you, and what works for you, works for you, and not them. You're running a different track than theirs.

One way that people learn to find happiness is to stop comparing themselves to other people. You will never become other people, you're a unique person and thank God for that. It might take you 10 more years to find your calling, but even if it does, it will be worth it, so be patient, or it could just be 5 more years, but that's still a significant amount of time, so be patient.

Also, shy away from social media avenues where people go to brag about their accomplishments, this causes a great deal of misery so you really have to guard your eyes and ears. Our brains are often quickly inclined to compare ourselves with others so you have to learn how to not tempt yourself, society is just full of suggestions which makes people very miserable.

Wize words.

Not only did I fail at my "dreams" (structural engineering)

s**t the only jobs I had were minimum wage, menial labor. And got canned

Fired


After taking the SAT in seventh grade and four years of structural engineering, the only jobs I qualify for are jobs all the drug dealers, high school dropouts, and convicted felons, also qualify for



Restaurant retail sales


Extrovert jobs



Gave up on "goals" a long time ago


Feel like brain damage



The only reason why anyone would ever make the mistake of hiring my worthless corpse again, clerical error




Not "everyone" achieved their goals


If there is one exception, the whole statement is wrong




f**k structural engineering


But whatever

When I flunked structural engineering it was 2005


Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, gender identity, 2012


Limiting reagent







So it doesn't matter, what degree I did not get, in 2005


f**k UCSD




Homophobic ass holes

Then your feeling is incorrect.

I haven't yet accomplished everything I want to do, and I'm 54. However, I have much more than I thought I would ever have.