I been a awful grandson

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When I would visit my grandmother (and my other family) in Mexico, I would spend most of the time in a room watching TV. I didn't think much of it until now (I have Aspergers) and I feel awful. I didn't even think about developing or trying to develop a connection with my grandmother. The same thing for my other grandmother and my

grandpa here in the united states, I never wished a happy birthday on their birthday, I never thought about developing a connection with them. It was just hanging out and leave (when I was younger) and as I got older, I like only saw them like 2 or 3 times a year probably. The worst element that made me feel bad is the fact my grandmother moved away to help my aunt raise her daughter and I remember telling my mom I think my grandpa is lonely but I never thought of going to see him or telling my mom and sister lets go see him. It has been like 4 years my grandmother has been done and I never visited him until this month. I can tell it meant a lot to him and I been

trying to set up a date to go fishing with him (he likes fishing) but the fall weather is not good and that makes me feel even worse because I think to myself. Why didn't I do this during the summertime? During the fall, I thought about visiting him but his street was cut off due to construction and he told my family not to go over there. So, why

didn't I make the connection? or had more energy for more effort? I have been feeling bad for months but yet I don't have the energy for more effort. I want to say because of my Aspergers but I think it just who I am as a person, I am lazy but this is my grandparents like come on.

While they're still alive you have time to fix that

Do your grandparents have Internet access? If they do, you can send emails and such.

If not, you can send them a letter.

^I was thinking something similar, depending on their computer literacy, online games like words with friends.
Or completing a crossword puzzle from the newspaper together over a video call, or voice call.
I think many young people will have sat in their grandparents watching TV/on their phone and not interacting with anyone. It doesnt make you a bad person.

If you live far away, you should write.

If you don't live so far away, you should visit them.

They would like a visit more than they would like a letter or an email.

What part of Mexico do your grandparents live? Maybe you can take a vacation there?

Sounds like a plan!

Letter writing is another suggestion they made and I second it wholeheartedly. People love to get letters, especially older people. Besides, there is such a thing as "mail art."

I used to write a lot to my cousins but they quit writing back...it's like they "outgrew" letters, like it's some manners custom for kids only. Not so. .

So it depends on who you send them to.

Visiting is awesome--sounds like you got plans. Got a Kanye album for your long trip?