How to find Australian roommates who'd understand me?

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I want to know, because I live in Australia which I feel very isolated in.. It'll likely take me years to have the ability to be fully independent and that my location gets really hot from spring to autumn which I'm not very good at coping with. However; I don't have very good social skills, my real self is very controversial here (I hate our gun control and I love anarchism but I'm harmless), that I'm both afraid and judgemental of Australians due to trauma, and that I really don't suit my country's culture at all. I don't belong here at all, and I don't really know how to talk to most Australians without hiding my real self a lot. I don't really have real life friends either and nearly no Australian friends online.

You can make new friends, provided you are able to tolerate the fact that many people don't like guns, and many people aren't anarchists.

And vice versa.

I feel like if you treat people like you want to be treated, you should be able to make friends.

I have had friends who have been on both sides of the political spectrum. I've never known a Nazi---though I've known Communists.

As long as they aren't bossy towards me and others, then I may be okay with them. However, a lot of Australians here are at least quite bossy and too conformist for someone like me since I do not want to be controlled at all from victimless things. Although, I'd probably not feel reciprocated if my real self is still "controversial" to them potentially because I want to have the ability to be vulnerable without being judged in a friendship instead of hiding a lot of my real self. If they're like our society, then I can't do that.

I think some Australians...especially those in the Outback, don’t mind guns.

They probably don’t mind Existentialism...but pure anarchy probably wouldn’t go well.

I find at least some “anarchists” to actually be existentialists.

True; but I'm terrible at coping with the heat meaning I'll prefer to go to Tasmania or something after moving out before I can go to America, and that a large number of pro-gun Australians tend to be very nationalistic too which means they could hate who I am. Though a few may be understanding of me still, but I doubt it because their ideology is also bossy. I should mention that they tend to be rather mean macho men, I already had enough bad experiences with those sorts of guys :/ I don't mean all manly men, just the emotionless macho types who are rather violent.

I chose to live on my own, when I moved out. Even if you aren't 100% independent, you might be able to find someone who can come into your flat/apartment and assist weekly. I agree with others here, that treating others as you'd like to be treated, is a good mantra. I'm an aussie, and initially lived in Brisbane(flats/apartments were very affordable when I was there, so could live solo, though I had a friend who wanted to live with me. I preferred to live alone. Loved having my own place.