God, one thing after another

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My mum and her partner are planning to spend my savings on this bathroom in this new council property. They've agreed against my will to a price that's £2-3000 above what the price should be, when I had asked them for a quote breakdown. My local council do not want me to have this property. I'm not the only person they're being horrible to. According to someone who used to work for them, and two charities, apparently my council is the WORST for housing in Essex, and those people have suspected corruption and "Something's up" from them.

I don't know what to do. My mum and her partner keep lying (and gaslighting) me. They say they'll pay me back and then they say they won't. I'm very upset and I want to jump in front of a train.

I had the idea years ago that I would save while on benefits by having a special kind of account where other people decided whether or not to spend my money on certain things. It's legal and fine by the benefits people because I cannot access that money, it can only be used to buy essential things when the people owning it agree to what it is spent on. I thought my money would be safe there. I was wrong. My mum and her partner are abusive. I have had enough. Heck, I had enough years ago but here I am.

I'm sorry this is happening. I'm not sure I fully understand about the bathroom, though. Will it be in your house or theirs?

Whose bathroom is it? (Yours, I think).

Regardless, if you don't consent to them spending your money on shaky terms can you report them to the bank or the benefits people and deny the transaction? The money is supposed to be for you and your needs, presumably with your consent.

Sorry to hear you're dealing with this - am I understanding correctly that your mother and her partner want to remodel their bathroom with your savings?

If this is the case I would definitely contact your social worker or the bank and report the situation. Even if your mother has guardian rights over the account, the money should still be used for your needs.

I am so sorry this is happening. It is wrong, wrong, wrong. In my country it is called Exploitation and it is a felony.

All the rules with benefits and asset protection are so complicated and crazy. I hope you can find some help from a social worker or bank to advocate for you. You shouldn't have to spend money on something you don't want.

It's not any consolation, but my father took all my savings when I was growing up and used for his purposes. I was a minor child at the time, but it was money I earned working a paper route and later as a car hop, and I had also saved a couple thousand dollars. And that was back when $2000 was real money.

Are they legally able to use it without your permission? If no, then tell them you'll report them to the police if they try. If yes, like if it's under their name, then you're probably in trouble, but you could try to get them to sign a contract where they promise to pay you back.

Do you have the new council property yet or are you still in the previous one?

Perhaps you could contact the bank and alert them to your non consent for this possible withdrawal and find out how to change the authorised persons that have access to your account.

I take it the bathroom is a "gut job" in this new property and you need someone to help organise the necessary work and that is why your mum and her partner are involved?

Does it need to be done urgently? Could you put it off?