Name blindness always getting in the way of meeting new peop

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I cannot remember the vast majority of names of the people I meet. It is so fricken difficult! They tell me and I immediately forget them. My brain is broken. They must think I'm an a**hole for not knowing their names after telling me again and again. I would need to take a photo of them and write their name down next to it but somehow I don't think that would be appropriate. It makes it really hard to meet new people.

I'm anything but good at remembering names as well. But I remember stuff only that I'm interested in and I'm not really interested in the names of uninteresting people. May be that's your problem too.
Mostly I say something like: 'Sorry but I really suck at remembering the names of people - what's you name again?'

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I started doing something I've seen sales people do, I use their name as frequently as possible during the initial conversation. Good to meet you, John. John, what interests you? John, that is very interesting. Etc.

And if I forget during that initial encounter, I can ask to be reminded and excuse my poor memory.

It's not perfect. But it helps.

I don't remember people's names when I first meet them, and I think I gave up trying to a long time ago because I know it doesn't work. But I almost never refer to anyone by their name anyway, unless I need to get their attention in a group, and even then I'm good enough at eye contact that I can often do it that way, eventually. It feels unnatural to call someone by their name. In a one to one discussion, using a person's user ID is illogical, as they know who they are, we've already made a connection, and if I can't remember their name it makes things uncomfortable. I find anyone who constantly uses my name very irritating. Why do it, as I already know who I am, and that they're talking to me!