Feeling bad for my Dad.

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Both his parents, my grandparents died...granted I did not really have a very close relationship with those grandparents so I cannot say I am devastated about it. LIke IDk that is just how it is, but they were my dads parents and now they are both dead. He was staying on their property but apparently at least for now the court has granted the property to my cousin(that person is a piece of s**t, he has murdered animals thinks women are objects the whole sh***y persona) I mean quite frankly what the f**k. My dad should have gotten a peice of that property as should have each of his siblings the actual children of the deceased...but somehow that sh***y cousin of mine, nephew of my dad gets everything? Just pisses me off so because of all this drama my dad has been 'banished' from the property so he has to go out to california to potentially stay with his sister there, he was there before and had to leave a dog he had with her, so hopefully after he comes here to colorado he can then go stay with them.


So yeah my dad would not have normally picked a pandemic time to visit, but his parents died and he got freaking kicked out of the property because of my s**tbag cousin. So like really I have no choice but to have him come to my place for a bit while he figures out his next move it is concerning because he will be traveling by plane and could contract the virus and bring it to me and my boyfriend....but he doesn't have a choice and he's my dad so I can't just abandon him. I am honestly more worried about him than me..I mean I am 30 my immune system seems fine, but he's like 60 by now probably and I don't want him to die of this he tends to have good immunity to, but he is a bit older now so it makes me worry some. I so badly wanted him to be able to stay out in Minnesota on his parents property where the virus hadn't even gotten yet....becasue then I knew he would be safe. But they died and the court gave the property to their grandson who hates my dad and of course kicked him out.

So yeah I will have him come to my apartment till he figures out how to get to California and his hopefully able to stay with his sister out there. I just don't want him to get super sick from corona during the journey, but what can I do? My dad is a homeless person and I know that is one of the hardest hit groups for this virus and so I worry about him but yeah I don't want him depending on city shelters while here so I will have him come to my place. LIke IDK some people take for granted they and their family all has houses and can probably stay safe...my dad literally doesn't have a home and was banished from the place he grew up like within the last week. IDK its really messed up and there is not much I can do for him aside offer that he can stay here for a bit till he figures his next move.

But it just makes me mad, its a freaking pandemic and he's being forced to travel out of a safer area, so I am worried about his risk also he and his siblings should have gotten the property not that stupid piece of s**t cousin. LIke I swear that cousin is an animal abusing homophobic all around a**hole a real piece of s**t and somehow he gets all the property before my dad and his sibling who were the actual children of my grandparents get anything...just seems off but I don't know. IDK maybe when my dad comes out we can look into if there is any way to legally contest any of that I just feel there is no good reason for him to be banished from the lands he grew up on so if there is a way to contest it so maybe he could get a peice of that land after-all. This just seems messed up all around, and my dad could get sick with the virus since he has to get on a plane and he has to come here because where the hell else is he going to go. I hear airlines are doing more sanatizing and s**t and I have also been cleaning up in my apartment with sanatizing stuff and what not so that it will be as safe as possible for my dad to come here. I feel at least if he has a clean place to go to after the airport that will help and he says he has a bandanna to cover his face, but me and my boyfriend have a couple extra masks if he needs one of those when he gets out here.

Also not that anyone would but I don't want comments of if you think my dad is taking advantage or should just look out for himself. He's homeless he doesn't have a lot going for him but he certainly loves me and my siblings but he's in a rough spot so like sometimes he needs some help. So yes I will help him while he is here and try to help him have the safest passage to california he can. I will not abandon a family member who needs help...and right now its my dad who needs help so I will help him the best I can. I am just pissed because he was in a good spot to avoid the virus apparently out in minnesota where he is hadn't really got a lot of cases of the virus so I was really hoping he could wait it out there. But now that is not the case, so I just really hope he can come here and remain healthy enough to get out to california with his sister there and be ok. Its just with this pandemic its certainly kind of a big risk...but he doesn't have an alternative choice. Like its just kind of stressful and I don't know what can be done, the best I can figure is I've been cleaning up in my apartment and wiping some surfaces down with disinfectant just so when my dad comes it will be fresh and clean in here to minimize his risk. I also have an essential oil diffuser I can put essential oils that help with breathing like eucalyptus oil, peppermint oil and a little pine and lemon because from what I understand a big part of coronavirus deaths is getting too much fluid in the lungs and pneumonia symptoms so anything that helps clear the air-ways is probably good and seems eucalyptus and mint are quite good for that. I just feel it is unfair my dad got banished from the property of his parents when they died...even though he has done so much freaking work on that propety. Like on here I may not be able to describe it too well so just trust me, my dad has gotten unfair treatment from the ole family...he has his flaws but f**k he's always tried to help people and he works hard so its just messed up it seems he never gets a break in life. Even though he has done so much for people like he's rough around the edges but my dad really is a good person and its just sad for me to see that everything works out so shittily in his life like I just wish I could win a lottery or something and give my dad a place to live out in the country where he likes it.

Not that I know anything about all the property you mentioned but I think it's more important to keep people you care about safe from living situations like that than it is to hold onto a house or land etc. Ultimately it's kind of a feat that you can accommodate family in these circumstances, let alone ordinarily. I hope you all stay safe until there's more certainty for you.

Well its just my dad would have been safer to stay out there while they were alive my dads parents were letting him stay there..but he cannot now with the current circumstances. So like the best I can do is keep my place clean while he is here and reduce the chances of him getting infected. I mean what happened is unfair and I plan to look more into the legality to see if there is anything my dad can do to contest it.

But for now he can't stay there so he's had no choice but to leave. like he got banished from the property so by law he cannot stay there.

I mean I cannot easily accommodate family, like me and my boyfriend are poor...we don't have much to offer. But its my dad so I have to find a way. I do have a bit more money put back just due to not spending, so I am not really stressed about money I might need to use to help....like I do have more than I need so I have a bit to spare if need be. If I my dad needs a little money to get out to california I can get him that, he always pays back so and well even if he can't this time I'd still give him some money. Like he is trying but once homeless its hard to get out of it...so he certainly struggles.

But what can I say, I am a socialist...my dad needs a little help and so I will give what I can to help him. Just worried it won't be enough.

For what it's worth you're a lot more prepared than many people all over the world.

It is true..and well I don't feel good about it, can't help thinking about people who can't be as prepared. I mean at least I have a house...even if its just an apartment i"m renting and haven't been called back to work yet they are even still paying me some. My manager called me to tell me they made a mistake on the furlough thing and I was still supposed to be on the payroll. I guess the thrift store still pays disabled employees some in the pandemic even if they aren't coming in to work at least the one I work in. Even so not sure I will be able to continue working at that location even if they do open all the way, because bus service has been cut down so not sure I'd be able to get to and from work reliably on the buses anymore. But for the time being I have a bit of money coming in because of my disability and I guess my job still paying me a portion of what my salary was and of course too much time on my hands. Like I feel I will be ok...but my dad isn't at the young age of 30 anymore so its concerning he has to travel during this time.

Can you apply for unemployment? Even if you get very little, you would still be eligible for the $600 a week.

IDk haven't looked into it yet...but also its now more confusing if my job is still paying me some. Because I was going to call the SSI office to tell them I was out of work currently, but now my job is still paying me a bit...and not sure how to report that. Also if I apply for unemployment IDK if that would effect my disability payment or not so its just a whole hassle to figure all that out, but may still be worth looking into.

Either way I can accomodate my dad coming to my place for a few days or whatever, but I can't prevent him from getting sick from the virus if he gets it and gets severly sick.

You couldn’t prevent him from getting sick even if he didn’t come stay with you.

Colorado has a relatively high rate of infection—but nothing resembling the NYC region. All you can do is take precautions. Denver County has had 212 deaths. NYC close to 20,000 deaths.

I’m wrong about the unemployment. I forgot you were still on disability. You have to report whatever income you receive to SSI as before.

Lol that is the issue, the website my job gave me to access my pay stubs hasn't let me in, so I have no way to send them updates on my current pay, granted they must have still been able to see some of what has been going on since I have gotten a few letters notifying me of changes to the payments. Got two one day, one with a slightly earlier date said they were cutting my SSI payments then the next one dated a couple days later was to inform me they were increasing it. So whatever I will take the money I get now...later on if they overpaid me or whatever I'll simply pay it back in time if need be.
Because for SSI overpayments, they just take a portion out of your next few checks till they collect the money back so like if they are overpaying me now...later they might take like 30% of my next 10 or more disability checks it to pay back my over-pay if they did overpay me. I mean realistically right now I have more money then I have ever had before to spend...yet now is also the time I have spent the least amount of money in my life. If anything I need to get rid of some of the money to not go above having the 2,000 SSI limit in my bank account. So I mean hell if my dad comes out and needs to borrow say 100 bucks that helps me keep my money below the limit that they would cut my SSI off hell at this point I could just give him like 200 dollars and afford to not have him pay it back. Hell I probably will give him 200 dollars to help him on his journey and this time since he's paid me back everytime before even giving me a little more than he borrowed I think this time I will just gift it to him. I can't take money from my dad during this pandemic even if it was to pay me back.

It is great that you want to step up to help your dad, he is lucky to have you. Would a car rental on a discount website like vroomvroomvroom.com be cheaper than taking a flight? Likely be safer. Google maps says its like a 13 hour drive.

See you you can get anything out of unemployment without it affecting your SSI. It's great that you're helping your dad out.

It's also great that you decided to stay on WP. We need more like you here.

I’m sorry for the rotten situation your dad is in. It is wonderful that you can help him out.

All we can do is limit our exposure as best we can. Worry doesn’t help, in fact it weakens the immune system.

(((Sweetleaf))) and (((Sweetleaf’s dad)))