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This place isn't working out well for me again and it's making me self conscious that my personality is 'wrong' somehow even though I know it isn't. So I'm going to take a break and come back later.

My finding of how aspies socialize - it's really NT-lite, a lot of the same dynamics but maybe dialed back 30% of the way.

If it's any consolation I've been here a long time and so many of my own personality traits are of a sort where I think I'm mostly alone with them. My guess is that this is just what it is to be an outlier in general and it can be frustrating to find oneself additionally an outlier among outliers.

Not suggesting not to take the break if you need it for other reasons, I just wanted to make it clear that the experience you're describing isn't just you.

Sorry to hear that it wasn't working out for you. I haven't seen your other posts so I am not sure what happened, but nobody deserves to be made feel that way, especially in what is supposed to be a support forum.

Yes I also feel like I am outlier among outliers. The main benefit of this place for me is that it is online, which is the only option I have since I can't find a way to get people to talk to me in person (and I would have preferred it in person -- by far -- since online isn't real). Plus, the fact that it is an aspie forum means that I can vent about my problems all I want; but I guess it doesn't count for much since most people ignore me.

Have a break and come back refreshed. Dont worry. KT. All is well.

From time to time I also feel like an outlier even here in an aspie forum. I don't have the wit that some have. My sense of humor always falls flat about things I find hilarious. As far as I can tell, there is no one posting with a special interest like mine.

That said, there is also a lot for me to gain from this forum. I can learn to let others have their own opinions and that doesn't detract from my own, which may be different. I have learned that much of what I experience is common to many of us - the social problems and the foundering executive function. I find I do get support if I ask for it. I've found a few people I can count on and some elderly women that I feel some connection with by virtue of our efforts to make our way through life with no idea of why we were so odd.

So, take a break. Come back if you want or not. I hope you come back, but wish only the best for you whatever you do.