Advice on living independently

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I've been trying to find my future wife and get a job for sometime now. I visit my parents every evening, and they are concerned about the Coronavirus (for themselves and my brother, not me.) and thus, I've had to focus on getting an online job, rather than looking for a local job. I am currently on an online course that teaches one how to be content writer. This morning my computer crashed and later on, I discovered that this resulted in me being logged out of both my course and the Catholic Dating on site I'm on; and, despite having the passwords written down, I couldn't get logged back on until just now. (For the dating site at least.)

After completing my daily meditation, I came to conclusion that enough is enough; I've decided I'm going to sever the last bit of dependency I have on my parents (except for a few financial connections that are too complicated to sever right now.) and only communicate with them over the phone, until this medical crisis is cleared up. Tomorrow I'm going to start looking for a local job, I'm already making preparations right now.

Does anyone have any advice that could be of use?

don't have much to tell you at the moment, but

haha, what??

your parents are worried about your brother and themselves catching it, but don't care if you catch it? do i read this correctly?

On what parts of living independently? How to maintain your household? How to hold down a job? How to stay on budget?

I'd assume that his parents and brother are risk group but he isn't, so they aren't as worried about him because of it.

Yes, that's it. Unfortunately I can't stay and clarify things, a lot has happened since posting this thread; I'm better off just trying and doing things now, instead of spending time asking questions.

Farewell.

That is a pretty broad topic.

On getting a job. I have been financially independent from around the age of 19.

It is very important for young Aspies to learn to value themselves, to evolve rock solid self- worth. To do this:
- First they must learn as many real life skills as possible, starting from the time a child learns to begin walking and talking.
- Second, turn those real life skills into an occupation. When I was growing up I had chores to do around the house for which I received an allowance. One of these chores was cutting the grass in the yard. This learned skill evolved into one of my first occupation, which was cutting the grass in the neighborhood. The hardest part was not cutting the grass; it was knocking on the door of a stranger, talking to the person inside and then offering my services. In the winter I shoveled snow from the driveways. I also sold garden seeds like a door-to-door salesman in the springtime. I became a little self-sufficient. I earned enough money to buy my passion at the time (comic books), along with candy, ice cream and other treats. All this happened before I even entered Junior High School.

The next transition towards building independence was part time jobs after school and summer jobs. In high school and all during college, I worked. In high school I worked as a clerk in a small “5 and dime” department store and then in construction during the summer assembling outdoor metal storage sheds.

I worked jobs (20 hours per week) whenever I was in school and (40 hours per week) during the summers, the entire time I was in college. During my four years of college, I worked:
* in the main branch of a bank balancing daily receipts.
* as a postman in the downtown mail sorting station.
* as a parking lot attendant.
* as a warehouseman in a large department store storage facility.
* as a night shift operator on a cyclotron.
* with a supercomputer performing heat transport modeling.

Why were these part-time/summer jobs important?
* I developed a rock solid work ethic and a positive attitude.
* I learned what is acceptable in the workplace and what will get you fired. (normally a career ender)
* I learned to be a productive employee. (The first few months of employment in a career field sets the tone for the rest of your career – therefore keying into this trait prior to establishing a career is a key attribute.)
* It opens up new skills and allows one to sharpen their skills. Work is another form of learning experience. It is essentially a different type of school.
* Managing money.
* Navigational skills in getting to work and finding my way home.
* Skills in marketing oneself.
* Mature your work style.
* The ability to exercise flexibility, adaptability and resourcefulness.
* Sharpens out-of-box thinking and problem solving.
* Overcoming shyness and practicing extrovert qualities.
* Work incorporates both educational skills but also real life skills.
* Evolve time management skills, executive function, theory of mind, organizational skills and common sense logic.
* These jobs also helped pay my way through college.

I do not know if any of this will help. I just began working and never stopped. I just began learning different trades and never stopped. I always did the best job that I could. And I was honest and trustworthy. And I made my way in this world.

In your case, I do not know what skills you have learned and what your educational level is. So I do not know where you are during this journey. But never give up. Also never leave a job unless you already have a new job set up to take its place.

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As far as getting a wife. Some of the attributes of Aspies are:
* an original way of thinking. (outside the box) [or even better yet – What Box!]
* A relationship with someone who has Aspergers tends to be free from bias and discrimination based on race, gender, age or other differences. They judge people based on their behavior not the color of their skin, socioeconomic status or political influence.

So you are constraining yourself needlessly. Open up your box. Make up a list. What do you seek in a wife? Let that be your guide. For example you appear to be a devout Catholic. There are many devout Catholics in the Philippines. Many even speak English. Some are very beautiful. Why constrain yourself. Of course foreign dating websites are fraught with danger. Perhaps you know someone from the Philippines that could mentor you through the process. But before you start, get a job and turn it into a career. And if you take this route, remember always be a good husband to her.