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Teach51
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27 Jul 2020, 7:57 am
Teach51
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27 Jul 2020, 8:11 am
smudge wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
smudge wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
smudge wrote:
So sorry. Mixed feelings ATM. Might or might not bring this back later...
Hugs smudge. If you have a gut feeling that it's wrong then it probably is.
I didn't manage to read your post which I see you have edited..
Thank you Teach, hugs back to you.
The thing is, my gut feeling has been out of whack for the past few years. Since the whole thing with my parents, I've not been functioning as well as I used to. Still, trying to fight it and give myself moments of calm, things have been coming back gradually...
Well then you are doing the right thing, observe, relax and take it one day at a time. Trauma can put our entire emotional radar system out of sync. Sometimes our own insecurities are to blame and sometimes we may not recognise abuse. I know this very well first hand. Some days I don't even like myself and I am too much to handle.
To the point that you wouldn't believe. Still, I'm well out of that mindset now and have been for a good while. It's just one of those things? A random event(s) completely destroying somebody.
I like myself a lot, actually.
And so you should smudge, so you definitely should.
31 Jul 2020, 2:23 am
smudge wrote:
So sorry. Mixed feelings ATM. Might or might not bring this back later...
Just in case it might be of some help or at least be something different to read for a few minutes ~ that I mildly edited for here but wrote for another thread involving things not going that well:
Perhaps negative thought framing is playing a role in minimising the interpretation of your achievements and intended outcomes, so rather than using negative or positive thought framing ~ try perhaps framing things neutrally and balance both more accordingly for you.
You could as such perhaps learn a thinking process that is called the Tetralemma by some, or four-way thinking, where one learns to view each state of affairs on balance point for point as equally being:
1,) Good.
2.) Bad.
3.) Both good and bad.
&
4.) Neither good or bad.
So for example:
1.) Guns are good in terms of being practically easy to operate.
2.) Guns are bad in terms of being dangerous to their users when they malfunction.
3.) Guns are both good and bad in terms of being good to provide food by way of hunting, and are bad when they are used to threaten, rob or murder people.
&
4.) Guns are neither good or bad as it depends who is using them such as a soldier or member of the public and what the situation is ~ such as whether they are out to harm or protect others for instance.
The basic rationale with this type of thinking; is that all perspectives have an influence on our developmental progression, so settle not upon one when others may be required.
By learning to think in this way naturally as a matter of habit, people can eventually watch over and influence their thinking processes as their thinking processes operate ~ rather than having to struggle so much to operate them themselves, or having so much to struggle with their thinking processes operating them.
It is generally recommended to keep to simple objects when learning to use the Tetralemma or four-way thinking process ~ if of course one is interested in so doing.
I found the initial brain strain well worth the effort, by way of doing one in the morning and one in the evening during the week, and taking the weekends off ~ which lets you know the process is integrating and that your thinking is happening for you.
A good subject many find useful it seems to practice with are seasonal weather conditions ~ what with there being quite a variety to choose from and all that.
Have a good one and may it be filled with infinitely more!
DT
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