Feeling like you'll never amount to anything?

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Anyone else been feeling like this recently?

Constantly.

I feel like that much of the time.

I think a good strategy for many Aspies is to convert their special interests, which they are often intense and focused about, into a mainstream career.

Recently yes

From 19 to 37 currently

Constantly yes

Clinical depression

Zero special interests

Expelled from all the schools

Made redundant from all the jobs

Evicted

Dumped by "friends"

Socially awkward, emotionally fragile, academically stupid, vocationally incompetent, financially worthless

Eczema flare ups

Gender Identity Disorder

Exhausted all the time

Limiting reagent

Everything I try to do is like saying "you can't make a silk purse out of a sows ear"

Telemere length

Ativan effexor propranolol Wellbutrin zoloft , too many side effects to handle cope deal take

Prozac not much positive or negative

Zero sum game

Everything I do is like competing nature versus nurture

For example, no matter how few calories , still fat

No matter how much studied, still flunked

No matter how much showered still itchy

No matter how much fiber still constipated

No matter how workaholic still made redundant

Like Sisyphus

The solar system is a torture chamber not a playground

Six personality disorder diagnosed

Afraid of dogs


Plenty of bozos have zero job skills and they earn enough to live reasonably

Not having job skills, hating your job, hating your boss, being lazy, bad at job and everything else, academically stupid, vocationally incompetent. Are not reasons to not work. Plenty of bozos are just like me in that way and they have jobs


No matter how much compromised still dumped by "friends"

Vilified


misunderstood

I’ve felt like that ever since I was applying for jobs, lost track of how many I applied for (probably well over 50 at least, and mostly low-end part-time jobs that “anyone” (except me, evidently) can get because that’s what was available), but can count on one hand (with fingers left over, even) how many I ever heard a thing back from, and the only two jobs I was able to get were part-time janitorial positions, one of them so desperate for employees that my boss asked me multiple times if I knew anyone else who would like a part-time job and would ask me to work extra shifts literally every week (which I couldn’t because at the time I was working with service dogs, on the way to getting my own, and I had to be with the dogs most of the time so we’d bond properly). That’s when I really started losing any trace of hope I might amount to anything, when I was harshly told that I can barely even get crappy (in my case, sometimes literally And I can say first-hand that the women’s bathroom was usually worse than the men’s at the department store I cleaned at) part-time jobs despite having a college degree (Bachelor’s in general biology). Didn’t even make it to the interviews, just kept applying and hearing absolutely nothing back. I had all of one “preliminary” interview, which I promptly failed because my tremor was particularly bad that day and the guy doing the interview kept saying how I looked “completely terrified” even though I wasn’t and even after I’d told him that the tremor’s normal for me. No real interview for either of the jobs I got, just an information session and some signatures for each before starting.

What's wrong with wanting a simple life? Why do I need to accomplish something or have successes? I'm content being myself and enjoying my life. I don't need to amount to anything in anyone's opinion to feel good about myself.

Not so much a feeling more a certainty. The list of things I am unable to do seems to grow slightly every month.

Yeah but well in this world what could I even amount to?

I mean right now it just kind of seems that survival is important so I am just trying to do what I can for that but mostly sticking around home a lot and trying to motivate myself into hobbies I have surrounded myself with in an attempt to maintain sanity. I play video games, I paint some miniatures(as of late that is the thing I am trying to push myself into) and yes I admit I mostly got into the painting minatures because my boyfriend is really into it and I thought it was really cool so I've gotten into it some as well..I doubt it will ever mean as much to me as it does him, he is for sure more passionate about it and I doubt I will ever paint as well as he does but I can still get some cool looking miniatures painted at least to a decent table top look. And also I have been thinking of delving back into reading more, after all I still have more of the DnD forgotten realms stories of drizzt the dark elf to read I mean there are so many books for that but I would like to hear more about his story. I think actually playing DnD would be too much of a time investment but I like the novels related to it.

But anyways trying to focus more on stuff like that, because there is just so much crap going on one cannot maintain sanity without some distractions. Also some of my family members pitched in to get me a Lord of the Rings lego set to build the Tower of Orthanc(the crazy black tower Saruman was hanging out in) for my birthday. But well I built the entire thing in two days, all 2,359 pieces and its a little over two feet tall. And so people are like, how? and all I can say is I wanted to finish it so I kept building till it was done. And well for that two days by not looking at all the sh***y stuff I feel it helped my mental health a bit. I mean at least for two days I was a lot more focused on ' I have to finish my lego wizard tower.' rather than 'oh no what is this world coming to.' The day I got it, I was building on it till like 1 in the morning, would have kept going but I got tired and had to go to sleep but I got right back on it when I got up in the morning. So yeah seems like that little break of playing legos, rather than worrying helped my brain a bit.

Yes, constantly. I have a college degree in Integrative Studies, but it is a degree that many people have never heard of. There is nothing I can do with it. I currently work at a store part-time and I've been working at this store for 9 years. There is really no room for advancement at this job. Everyone there is part-time except the managers and it doesn't pay that much. If I could work full-time at this place, I would. I don't think that I will get hired anywhere else. I've been on several job interviews and pretty much every job wants you to have experience and some skills. I don't have an impressive resume. All I have on there is one job that I've had for 9 years, a college degree that nobody has ever heard of, and some volunteer work here and there, but nothing impressive. I would have to go back to school and get a skill if I ever want to get a better job because it's not going to happen with my poor social skills and a short resume.