I failed in life

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I think i cant move forward in life, many things prevent me. Im an ugly 22 year old male who has aspergers and some other problems like social anxiety.

Because of ugliness i couldnt get any support and ended up being asocial, staying at home all day. Autism is another thing i should deal with so im both mentally and physically screwed up.

I dont have the bravery to end my life but im stuck in this world and i feel alienated. What would you do if you were in the same situation?

I would try to find a local support group. I bet all of the other aspies won't be gorgeous.

In fact, if nobody is beautiful, everybody is!

I would also try volunteering. Helping others makes you feel better, and lets you see that others often have worse problems.

Do you have a "special interest" that absorbs your attention? Indulge it, then try to grow it by connecting it to a related field. That would be twice the fun!! !

Good Luck. And everybody here is pulling for you, my friend

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You can't measure beauty. Not everyone finds the same thing attractive. Not everyone is equally attractive.

Many are superficial and judgmental

But not everyone at all times

What you feel is normal. Males are largely disposable in their 20 's but they shine in their 30's and beyond. Your job in your 20's is to accrue value, and to not look at the people who are already established.

Get to work on what you want to accomplish in life. Girls are a SECONDARY objective. If you can get a gf while you're still accrueing value, great. But male value isn't front-loaded. This means that if you're willing to put in the work, it will pay off immensely in your 30's and beyond, but you must be willing to put in the work and not be distracted chasing casual sex/girls and other distractions that turn you away from the path.

Males age like wine IF they are willing to put in the work and not be distracted with defeatism, nihilism, materliasm, etc. Your duty is to stay focused on the objective. Girls are SECONDARY. I see so many males just perpetually circling the drain because they can't get a gf, but if only they remained disciplined in pursuing their hobbies, they could be content without having a spouse AND still get one anyways.

Male ambition when it is focused is a force to be reckoned with, and women will see that and be irresistibly drawn to you, but you have to grab this and hone it every day as to make it a habit. You already have this in you and its up to you if you want to awaken it, but the only way to awaken it is to avoid distractions, which in our society is a difficult thing to do. Which is why you musn't look for girls directly, but indirectly. Stay away from porn, social media drama nonsense, and materialism. Study philosophy and workout and self improve. Not only will these things make you feel amazing but they will get you what you want in the end (and a spouse being the bonus NOT the objective).

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