Lost a Friend Because He Spread Falsehoods About Me

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Hey, guys. Something has been troubling me. A friend of mine who I will not say his name (now ex-friend), blocked me on Facebook earlier this year for something I didn't do: Flirting with one of her female friends, when in reality, I didn't really talk to her too much, just talked about some of the things we both like. And then This guy's friend tells these damn lies about how I'm a bad person, how I'm copying him, et al. UGH! This guy's friend said that I don't know what I'm doing, also thinks I need help, and how I am worse than Onision, SHUT UP! I blocked this friend of his as well for telling me these lies. It should be worth mentioning this friend of my ex-friend has never met me in person, so he is making stuff about little he knows about me. X( Too many times, I've had friendships end due to falsehoods spread about me.

Guys..... do you have any words for me here? I need you more than ever. This is just stupid, what this guy told me. Please, NO rude or degrading comments, or downvoting for the heck of it. This is a serious post. Thank you.

I can relate to your pain because I had a friend a few years back who ailienated himself from be by telling lies and even saying false things. It baffles me how people are like that.

Best you can do is rid yourself that SOB.

Sorry, no words of wisdom, but with friends like that who needs enemies?

I feel your pain, I've been in similar situations too (it's incredibly common behaviour), some people are just no good.

Seems like you had a "friend" with a jealousy issue dude ( not helped by a toxic idiot ).

It wouldn't of mattered what you did , said , didn't do or didn't say , it's all in his head ( jealousy can do this to some people ).

If he was a good friend you could try and open dialogue to address his jealousy and your innocence ( tread carefully as it can be a touchy subject to some ).

The friend of the friend sounds toxic , keep him blocked and out of your friendship ( which might be tricky if he is also a good friend of your friend ).

Hope this helps

Reread every post between yourself and the girl you were SUPPOSEDLY flirting with.
If anything could be misunderstood, contact your friend and clarify.
Contact the girl and clarify.
Tell them both that your intention has always been simply friendship, that is his/her/their choice to be friends.
The troublemaker does not deserve to be brought into the matter.
Clarification may salvage a friendship and may show your friend that the troublemaker is just that.

I’ve been burnt too many times by people that were supposedly friends.

My default is that I no longer trust most people. I can be nice, but I’d rather you keep your distance and leave me alone.

I have had many people who have been "crazy makers" in my life. I never understood why they took pleasure in creating dramas with me at the centre, but it hurt beyond belief. I have never been an envious or jealous person, and I never understood other people's vindictive, unprovoked, hurtful actions.

In your case equestriatola, there seems to be jealousy and rivalry involved and you are the innocent victim.

A friend who turns his back on you without attempting to investigate the truth does not deserve you. It hurts, I know, but it's their failing, not yours. I hardly know you but I always feel the depth of your good heart. People are often threatened by goodness, they fear it. It is much easier for them to create pain and division than face the fact that they are probably not as kind and goodhearted as you are and face their own inadequacies.

Stay near good people, the one's who cause you pain are better out of your life.

We have never really interacted but I will, at this opportunity, tell you that I took a shine to you immediately on joining this Forum. There is something absolutely lovely about you that requires no spoken words to sense.

Well said.

I’m sorry you are going through this.

(((equestriatola)))

^ Thank you. I'll never understand why people can be like this, jealous.

Perhaps this person takes their upset feelings out on others....
Perhaps to them it is like hitting a pin~ata when you are in a bad mood.

Probably best you find a new friend. Is sad that it has happened.

Losing a friend hurts.