Between 2 rocks and 2 hard places

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Between a rock and a hard place .... if your support network has moved away and you are left to stay ., what do you do? Find a new support system or just go somewhere and hope for the best where ever you end up .
Am open to ideas here , just please allow them to be polite suggestions .? Please

Right now is NOT the time to move to a new home!
All priorities must focus on possible exposure to Covid.
You know that your home is safe.
You do NOT know how another house or apartment was cleaned/sanitized after the previous tenants.
Are your supportive friends/family not accessible via telephone or Internet?
Have they moved too far away for careful visits?
Please make your health and safety number one in your life when making a critical decision.

Agreed, I would not risk moving right now, especially if you don’t know moving will be any better than staying. Personally I would also probably find things easier to manage if there was something that stayed familiar and known, like staying in the same house/apartment/etc. It helps to have a safe, familiar place to retreat to when necessary. But if you would be moving to the same area as people who are/were already in your support system, then perhaps they can be the comforting constants that I, at least, would find necessary in a similar scenario. Would highly recommend trying to wait until the pandemic isn’t such a problem to try to move if you can, though, both for your own safety and to avoid the potential of unknowingly carrying the virus somewhere new.

These are just some things I would take into consideration if I had to choose, hope I don’t sound pushy or anything, that is not the intent. Big dragon hugs, I understand the importance of having an in-person support network, and I hope that whatever your choice, things go well for you.

In addition, the employment situation is ghastly everywhere !

The covid issue is a consideration but my health is oddly resilient , the support network is mostly via media
Communication .. with the occasional in person meet which carries a lot of weight for me.
Have suspicions have had it already and passed it . ( covid). Sometime ago . But your advise ,if in fact have not been infected yet your warnings .. make very good sense .. thank you very much , but property values are good just now . Right employment too .. must be considered.

We all want the best for you, please be very, very careful!

Is difficult to say what is best to do. I think to look for ideas is good but you do not want to be in a worse off position then where you are now. You want to be better off so plan things carefully.
At these current times things are difficult. I have seen people expecting a housing crash over there and here too things are looking similar, as people are putting all their cash into property to have something of value when a monetary crash comes so house prices are zooming up and they are selling like mad, but you don't want to be left without a home.

There is no harm in looking at potential places you would like to dream about as we need something good to spur us on and planning ahead is a good idea.

So it is a good plan to look but take care not to rush into anything.

I would stay where I am.

It is so difficult losing one’s support system. Especially for an aspie when the connections are so much more meaningful because for us they are more rare.

I sense a bit of panic that may be spurring you to take action...any action. Better to sit with it a while before making a decision.

(((Jakki)))

Thank you. And ty for the advise ........ feeling little lost about this stuff .

Go to the beach and smoke weed.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

Weeds are not designed to be smoked. Some are poisionus.

Hugs Jakki. You’re maybe in need of some time to adjust to the new circumstances(life is filled with hellos and goodbyes). Once the dust settles again, and you start to feel more secure again(losing your support network can be very tough/unsettling beyond measure), only then would I make any decisions. The upheavel of a move and that move itself doesn’t guarantee better support or a happier existence. But, it can really help to shift your mind from the sense of loss and instability by losing yourself for a bit in the fantasy of moving to a dream home or place, so looking online at Real Estate and imagining a life elsewhere may help greatly. If you’re meant to move, it will happen . X

Thank you very much for much needed advise...........all the above ^^^^^^^

You’re welcome, hun.

The Covid antibodies do NOT prevent re-infection!
And there is no way to to be sure that the new house or apartment was truly sanitized!
You cannot even be sure about the inside of the moving van!
My city is back on strict lockdown; you will be stopped and questioned if you are out on the street after 10:00 PM!
How about give it a month to make a decision, and check out your possible destination VERY thoroughly online!
Please?